Dr. Carol Peters-Tanksley
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4 Clear Keys to More Christlike Thoughts and Feelings
GI-GO. Any old-time computer person will recognize that acronym: Garbage In, Garbage Out. If you want better output, change the input! And it’s not just for your computer. It’s also the key to healthier thoughts and feelings. As a high school senior, I learned computer programming using the old 80-column paper punch cards. (I’m dating …
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3 Lessons You Must Learn to Keep From Settling for a Miserable Marriage
Marriage affects your well-being. If your relationship is healthy you are happier, healthier and generally live a longer more productive life. If your relationship is unhealthy, your physical, emotional and spiritual well-being are at risk. The stakes are too high to settle for a miserable marriage. That doesn’t mean you can “make” your marriage happy. …
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5 Healing Ways to Help Someone Struggling With Depression or Anxiety
If the statistic is even somewhat true that 1 in 4 of us struggles with a mental health challenge, you are either struggling with this yourself or you know someone who is. And if you care at all, you’d like to truly help someone who is depressed or anxious. How do you do that? Suicide …
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When Your Spouse Hurts You, Try These 4 Spirit-Fueled Responses
You will be wounded in your marriage. It’s not a question of if, but when your spouse hurts you. But the more important question is: What will you do next? Two sinners becoming one in the covenant of marriage is a setup for pain. Always. Without exception. If one or both of you have not …
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Why Your Prayers May Be Too Small
If it seems as though God is not answering your prayers, it’s probably not because your prayers are too big. Instead, are your prayers too small? What do you pray about? Have you listened to yourself when you pray? What percentage of your words are asking God to “fix” something? Please make my spouse be …
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5 Truths You Must Understand When You Need Real Restoration
A marriage that’s damaged through infidelity. A public figure who betrays the trust of those they lead. A pastor caught in sexual or financial indiscretions. Is restoration possible? What does restoration look like? What does it take to be restored? The message of the gospel, the whole ministry of Jesus, is that restoration is possible. …
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5 Grace-Filled Tips for the Spouse Who Is Also a Caregiver
If your marriage has had a reasonable degree of closeness and love, when one spouse becomes ill it affects the other deeply. Sure, there are the “little” things such as the flu or a necessary surgery. But what about when the illness is ongoing, chronic and perhaps eventually terminal? What happens to your marriage when …
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Practical, Spiritual Solutions for Those Times You Feel Far From God
God created you and me for intimacy with Himself. Intimacy with God is possible! But that feeling of being close to God may often seem to last about as long as a summer thunderstorm—refreshing and powerful, but short-lived. So what do you do when you feel distant from God? As integrated human beings, our intellect …
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How You Can Eliminate the Spirit of Fear From Your Life
One of the Scriptures many Christians know well is 2 Timothy 1:7. In the New King James Version, it reads: “For God has not given us a spirt of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind.” What is a “sound mind”? How can you know if your mind is “sound”? …
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6 Crucial Steps to Help Close the Gap Between You and Your Spouse
Intimacy doesn’t just happen. If you and your spouse ever are going to come closer together, one of you will have to make the first move. Think of the space between you. Is there a gap between you and your spouse? Closing that gap doesn’t have to be as overwhelming or dramatic as you may …
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4 Ways to Stay Positive When Your Spouse Is Negative
Keeping a positive outlook on life brings many benefits—both to your own experience and to your marriage. But choosing good things to think about can seem especially difficult when your spouse is negative. Understanding your spouse makes a big difference here. If your spouse’s heart is evil, or if he or she is engaging in …
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How You Can ‘Think Positive’ Even in Negative Circumstances
What’s going on in your mind right now? Yes, right this very minute. What has your attention? Are you having a good day or a bad day? If someone asked you, “A penny for your thoughts?”, what would you tell them? Do you have a stockpile of good things to think about? Many years ago …
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Why You May Need to Cut Back on Your Screen Time
Feeling overwhelmed with life. Distracted without a sense of purpose. Overstressed and overanxious. Lonely, without close relationships. Unable to focus, be quiet or hear God’s voice. Could your hyperconnected digital diet be causing anxiety? People have struggled in many of these areas throughout history. But today’s world has increased these problems beyond anything humans have …
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3 Powerful, Prayerful Tips for Reconnecting With Your Spouse
You are feeling seriously disconnected from your spouse, and it’s just plain awful. You’ve determined you will no longer ignore, accept or project your marriage problems; you’re going to do something about it. So how do you make a step to reconnect with your spouse? Living in shame for your own faults or blaming your …
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How to Get Unstuck (and Why You May Need to)
Some people get stuck in the past. They respond as though the trauma or other challenge they experienced decades ago just happened yesterday. Some people focus on today; “If it feels good, do it!” And some people are always worrying about or planning for tomorrow, never enjoying today. So which do you spend most effort …