Oh, but it is so hard. Umm … yeah. Of course it is. It’s called “If you want to be my disciple, carry your cross and follow Me” (see Matt. 16:24). It’s completely countercultural and against our flesh.
The road of a disciple is not easy. We are told to daily carry our cross and to renounce all we have. My right to be right, my need to be vindicated, my anger, my need to be defended in the eyes of man—all those count as “possessions” I need to lay down. Hebrews 13:12-13 tells us to go into the outer camp and bear the reproach with Christ.
Nowhere does it say to tell the other guy off; nowhere does it say to “let him have it” or to grumble against him. Nowhere.
You may be thinking, I should send this blog to so-and so, but allow me to remind you that the psalmist’s words are still true: “Let the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be acceptable in your sight” (Ps. 19:14a). For me, as a woman—a black woman—the issue is not my right to be seen and heard, but bearing graciously the reproach of Christ. It’s not my blackness that I am representing; it is Christ the King.
In Him there is room for all people, but all people are to become like Him if they want to enter in. It is no longer I who live, but Christ who lives in me (see Gal. 2:20). I am not going to defend the “Yeah, but you are still black” argument; make it as you will. At the end of the day, Christ is to be formed in me and that can only happen if—I. Die. Daily.
The same goes for you. Whatever misgivings you might experience at the reading of a post, you have no rights. Say it with me: “I have no rights.” We gave those up at the foot of the cross.
Beyond the Horizon
OK, so really, Nayomi, what then? How do I motivate my own heart, what’s it all about? “I shouldn’t fight for my rights?” If I shouldn’t defend myself, then how do I keep my sanity? This is just not fair.
Since you asked, verse 14 of this passage gives us an amazing response: “For [or because] here we have no continuing city, but we seek one to come (Heb. 13:14).”
That’s it. All of this is passing and temporary—including or especially those social media posts that so infuriate me and all the comments attached to them. The Father knows and sees all things. Of Jesus, the Father said He feared the Lord which is why, not solely but in part, Isaiah 42:2 says of Him, “He shall not cry out, nor lift up his voice, nor cause his voice to be heard in the street.” He feared the Father and fully trusted Him to know that one day the Father would make all His enemies His footstool.
I Continually Forget
I love Jesus so much. He is so strange and so different, magnificent, mind-blowing, mood-altering, awe-inspiring. I squeal with delight when I think about Him more than I have when I’ve thought of anyone I have ever known. At the same time, I often find it so tempting to do things my own way and in my own strength, which is not the way of the cross. The truth is, many of us are fighting the same battle—the battle of who is right and who is wrong. Perhaps the issue is not so much what battle we fight, but rather how we fight. We are fighting without wisdom. If we truly possessed wisdom, it would be evident in our speech. True wisdom begins with the fear of the Lord.
So, help me, Lord—help us to be like You.
Teach us to abide, Lord. Teach us to dwell in Your house, to gaze upon You and then, only then, to ask You questions, to inquire and simply ask of You. In patience, we will watch You work through us like You, Father, worked through Your Son. Not in our own strength but rather in our weakness is where Your strength is made perfect. Amen.
How is the Lord inviting you to guard your speech—both in person and online? {eoa}
Nayomi Thomas (MS, Organizational Development, Avila University) was raised across three continents, including a small island in the Netherlands Antilles, and now has a broad view of life, which she shares with her eighteen-year-old daughter Mahan, four-year-old-son, Justice, two-year-old daughter Addison, and husband, Jaye. Together, the Thomas family resides in Kansas City, Missouri, and are part of the International House of Prayer.
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