Recently my good friend and co-worker married a wonderful, God-sent man. As I watched their beautiful Italian ceremony, I was reminded of the many years I spent with her praying and asking the Lord to send her a husband. So needless to say, I was excited to see her stroll down the aisle!
My friend wanted to be married, but she didn’t waste time lamenting her singleness. But for many women, being single is a lonely life to live. They exhaust a lot of prayer time cutting deals with God: “Lord, if You allow me to get married, my husband and I will work together in ministry for You.” But the reality is not everyone will get a chance to say I do, and God will still expect us to serve Him.
I used to pray similar prayers, but one day I stopped complaining long enough to hear the Holy Spirit speak. His message to me is my encouragement to you: Learn to be content in Christ as He unfolds His plans and purposes for your life—but by all means, have a life!
First Timothy 6:6 tells us “godliness with contentment is great gain,” and it is. But contentment doesn’t mean single women should mope around waiting for a husband.
Take advantage of the countless opportunities you have to do ministry and become the woman He created you to be. The Bible says the harvest is plentiful but the laborers are few.
My friend met her husband in church where she was busy serving the Lord and fulfilling His purpose for her life. She doesn’t regret waiting years for the right guy to come along.
Please don’t spend all your time negotiating with the Father asking Him for a tall, dark and handsome man; use your time to advance the kingdom. His message of covenant love isn’t directed at just married people. It’s for every single one of us.
Rabbi Eric Tokajer 
Bunni Pounds 
Marilyn Hickey Ministries 
