Despite what we might imagine, marriages don’t take care of themselves. They need care and maintenance to flourish. And sometimes they need outside intervention.
Finding the right marriage counselor isn’t all that different from finding a new pediatrician. Ask a friend for a recommendation. Your pastor might be another great lead source. He should have the names of counselors in whom he has confidence and who are biblically based in their approach.
Another option is the American Association of Christian Counselors (www.aacc.net), which can refer you to licensed, professional Christian counselors.
Mandatory Questions
There are important questions to ask before making an appointment:
- How does the counselor integrate faith and God’s Word into the counseling process?
- What are the counselor’s professional credentials?
- For how many years has he/she counseled?
- What are the fees?
- What is the process for payment and/or insurance?
A biblical view of marriage as a covenant relationship is of great importance. Christ is an integral member of your marriage team. Your counselor should share this view of Scripture and seek to honor that covenant as he or she works with you. The entire process should be covered in prayer.
Just as you visit different churches before becoming a member, the first counselor you see may not be a match. Both husband and wife must have a comfort level with the therapist in order for marriage counseling to work. If a first attempt doesn’t hit the mark, try seeing someone else.
For the original article, visit lifeway.com.
Joseph Mattera 
BJ Foster 
Shelby Bowen 
