I was excited to meet Bill at a recent workshop. He is enrolled in our Hearing God Through Your Dreams e-learning module and had begun receiving incredible revelation from heaven through his visions at night.
In a dream, the Lord revealed that self-hatred was a root cause underlying the autoimmune issues he had been dealing with for years and how to address it by learning to feel about himself the way God feels about him. That is, unconditional love.
Bill shares, “When I had this dream, it marked a turning point in the symptoms. The image in the dream of the love for myself was so comforting that I was dwelling on the dream several weeks later. While I was recalling the dream, the Lord spoke to me that the healing I was receiving began when I started to love myself through this dream. I believe the image in this dream showed me how to love myself enough that my body was able to begin to recover.”
Upon understanding the interpretation and honoring the dream’s message through repentance and self-acceptance, the physical condition began to immediately reverse. He was eager to show me his hands and fingers, which were greatly improved and looking healthy already. Praise God!
I’m so proud of Bill for listening to his dreams and for acting on the Lord’s nightly counsel to him. Truly our heavenly Father gives to His beloved even in their sleep (Ps. 127:2)!
Emotional Freedom—Is It That Big a Deal?
Scripture tells us we comfort others with the comfort we ourselves have received (2 Cor. 1:3-5). In order for us to be a blessing to others, it is most helpful if we are not among the walking wounded. To the degree that we are healed and comforted, we can offer those same gifts much more freely to others.
Emotional Freedom Techniques, or EFT, is an effective tool to accomplish precisely what its name implies: liberty and choice in regard to our feelings and how we experience them. If I’m overwhelmed at work, stressed out in my relationships, worried about my finances, disappointed with God, afraid of the future and feeling guilt-ridden in general, I don’t have a lot of time or energy left to be considerate of the needs of those around me. I’ve got my own problems! How can I expect to help others, too?
When we are living in toxic emotions, we aren’t the most effective ministers of the gospel of Jesus Christ. The word gospel actually means “good news.” If I look at my life, is it a good advertisement for this Good News, for this gospel of peace? Am I living in the promises the Bible says are mine? Am I experiencing righteousness, peace and joy in the Holy Ghost?
While these negative emotions don’t serve us well but, in fact, greatly diminish and hinder our service to others, the opposite is also true. Positive feelings are the seedbed of greatness. If bad emotions are so wrong, then what about good kingdom emotions? Are they really that important? Is the Lord actually concerned with how we feel?
Self-Love. Really?
When we first begin to practice EFT, we learn about the two-part “setup phrase.” In the first part, we acknowledge a negative emotion we’re feeling. In the second part of this setup statement we affirm we love ourselves in spite of ourselves. For example, you will repeatedly hear some version of the setup phrase as, “Even though I feel (fill in the blank with a negative emotion)—I still deeply and profoundly love and accept myself.”
To personally explain the important principle of self-love, let’s revisit a time a few years back when I was stuck. I had tried to learn and apply Scriptures about judgment, such as, “Judge not, that you be not judged” (Matt. 7:1). I also focused on the opposite of judgment, which I had understood to be love. I, therefore, committed the entire 13th chapter of 1 Corinthians to memory. I wanted to walk in love and not be critical!
Eventually, the Holy Spirit got my attention and explained the root of my problem. I was being critical of someone and was feeling guilty for being critical. I prayed: “God, I know, I know. I need to love that person as I love myself.”
God said, “No, please don’t. The problem is you are loving your neighbor as you love yourself. You’re just really bad at loving yourself. You love yourself with condition and restriction, based on unrealistic demands and impossible standards. You do treat others the same way you treat yourself, and that’s what I want to address.”
And so began my journey into extravagant self-love. This is very different from selfishness. As God explained, it is actually in the best interests of all those around me that I treat myself with compassion. If I walk in extraordinary kindness toward myself, then when I love you the way I love me, I will be expressing God’s version of true love, filled with patience, understanding and gentleness.
In Living a Life You Love, Joyce Meyer discusses this same truth. Section II of the book is titled, “Love Yourself and You Will Love Your Life” where she breaks down who we are to love: God, ourselves and others, in that order. She writes, “We are who God says we are, but we live according to who we say we are.” That’s why it’s imperative we agree with God, saying we are lovable and feeling we are worthy of love.
Maybe you are stuck, too, saying you love yourself, but it doesn’t feel true to you. EFT can help you tap into the love and compassion of God. When we receive a heart revelation of how our heavenly Father truly feels about us, we can’t help but overflow with that same merciful, gracious, generous love for ourselves and others.
Jesus loves you. Isn’t it time you learned to love you, too? {eoa}
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Charity Virkler Kayembe has a doctorate in biblical studies, is passionate about the sacred supernatural and writes about the unfolding adventure that is walking by the Spirit on her blog at GloryWaves.org. She has been featured on Sid Roth’s It’s Supernatural!, Cornerstone TV, Charisma magazine and The Elijah List. Charity is the co-author of four books, including Hearing God Through Your Dreams, Unleashing Healing Power Through Spirit-Born Emotions and Everyday Angels.
