Father-Son Missions Adventures

New Man: Tell us about the trips you took with
your sons.

 Horner: I’ve got three sons who are all grown now.
When they were younger, my wife and I made a game plan that as each one
approached his 16th birthday, I would take him on a mission trip. A mission
trip creates a unique bond and leaves an indelible impression on both father
and son—I got to see firsthand what my sons were made of and I was impressed!
Each experience was so different.

I took my first son to Poland. The wall had just come down
and we were supporting a church there. I was teaching a seminary course at the
church, and I wanted Jeff to do something more than just go along. Jeff is more
verbal and has a teacher’s heart, so I asked him to do one of the classes. He
did a presentation on what it’s like to be a pastor’s kid in America. He
actually got far more questions than any other pastor there, because everyone
was intrigued by what the life of an American teenager is like. Of course, he
learned far more from everyone there than they did from him.

My second son is a little more outdoorsy, so when his turn
came I took him on a trip to support churches we work with in Nepal and India.
It was kind of an adventurous, rigorous trip. We literally had to hike up a
mountain to get to the first village because there was a transportation strike.
I remember one night we stayed up late talking to the pastor of the church we
were working at. Every year this guy would travel into the mountains for as far
he could walk for two weeks, sharing the gospel with everyone he met along the
way. Later on, if I felt my son was getting too caught up in American culture,
asking for specific brands of clothes for example, I would always bring up
pastor Osman and ask if he needed such items.

I took my third son on a trip to Zambia, Kenya and Ethiopia.
It was an amazing opportunity for him to see these other cultures. When we got
to Ethiopia we met with some missionaries there who had two daughters near his
age. He got to hang out with them and hear what it was like to grow up for most
of their lives in Africa. Between that and eating food right on the dirt floor
of a church made of manure and sticks, it was quite the experience.

Now, even years later, the stories we share from these trips
are priceless. Of course, they tease the oldest brother about having spent his
trip on a European vacation.

New Man: Why did you take your sons on mission
trips instead of vacations?

Horner: It’s about building a balanced, biblical
perspective on the world. The American dream is not the driving force behind
life. We wanted our kids to see that joy in the Lord does not depend upon an
American cultural and economic context. We wanted them to see that what working
and living are like for most of the world. We wanted them to have a deeper,
more mature view of the world than is often portrayed in American churches.

Cathy and I had been doing this for years and they all knew
it was important to us, but there’s nothing way to really understand until you
see it and experience it for yourself. 

New Man: How does this relate to some of the
findings in your new book, When Missions Shape the Mission?

 Horner: One of the main points in the book is that
the Western church has not done very well in our call to preach to the nations.
We talk about the gospel and our need to bring people to Christ, but we don’t
actually do it.

 So I wanted my sons to see the Acts 1:8 view of missions in
practice. That verse says, “You will be my witnesses in Jerusalem, and in all
Judea and Samaria, and to the ends of the earth.” For us, Jerusalem is your
hometown, Judea is Western civilization and the ends of the earth are the same.
It’s important that we reach out to all the different areas we can touch in our
lives. God’s heart for the nations and His desire for us to reach out to them are evident throughout the Scriptures, all the way back to Abraham.

New Man: What are some things you learned in the
book that are important for fathers?

Horner: The first is learning to pray for missions.
Not just, “God, bless the missionaries,” but really get to know them and how to
pray for them. There are so many resources available for this. The Joshua
Project or Voice of the Martyrs are good places to start.

I’d also encourage men to engage their families in any kind
of missionary activities you can. Get them involved in anything your church is
doing, and if you can’t afford to travel, work in missions locally.

Show them how to give beyond just tithes and offerings. This
is one thing my wife and I could have done better. We encouraged giving to the
local church, but not to look for specific opportunities for mission work.

I think the biggest factor is creating a culture in which it
is clear what the priorities are in your home. If you live according to
biblical principles, making sure are spending your finances in a way that
honors God and teaching the scriptures in your home, you are creating an
environment that will encourage real missions in your children.

Finally, the best thing you can do as a father is to love
your wife. Make sure they understand that in your life, Christ comes first,
your wife second and your children third. There is a complete loss of balance
when families revolve entirely around the children. You can give your kids no
better sense of security than by making it clear how much you love their mom.