Finding Hope After Tragedy on the Tracks

According to the New Jersey Star Ledger,
18-year-old Timothy was the first Manasquan High School student to die by stepping in front of a train on April 26, 2008. Two months
later, Andrew, 18, stepped onto the tracks and died, almost on the same
spot as his friend.

In August, 20-year-old Joseph was killed by a
train in Belmar, N.J., leaving another devastated family, grieving
friends and a shaken community.

But the rash of deaths did not
end that summer—and it wasn’t contained to the tracks. On Dec. 28, 2008,
Drew, a Manasquan High School graduate, hanged himself. His death
marked the end of a horrible year that started when a 16-year-old died
from a probable drug overdose.

The next year saw more tragedy on
the North Jersey Coast Line tracks. Two 17-year-olds chose death by
train: one in May 2009, one in October.

And the terrible trend
continued in 2010, when a third 17-year-old jumped in front of a train
on May 22. This year, a 19-year-old named Lily committed suicide when
she drove onto railroad tracks in Spring Lake on April 11, according to
the Monmouth County Prosecutor’s office. Ten days earlier, a 17-year-old
was struck and killed by a N.J. Transit train in Long Branch.

It
was into this county, wracked by grief and darkness, that Will Graham
brought the gospel of Jesus Christ in May. “I want to share how people
can have hope in Jesus Christ,” said Graham a few days before the May
20-22 Jersey Shore Celebration.
“This is one area of the country that has been hardest hit by the
recession—the north end has seen flooding—so a lot of people are looking
for answers. And there are the suicides. People are looking for hope.”

Graham
believes God uses events in the world today to draw people to Himself.
“People are realizing there has to be more than what they see in the
world around them,” he said. “They are looking for purpose and meaning. I
am going to share how they can have purpose and meaning, and have their
guilt and shame taken away.”

Chris Ann Waters, who co-chaired
the Celebration’s Prayer Committee, said she agrees with Graham
wholeheartedly. “For me, Christ has been the answer. As a born again
believer, I went on my knees in focused prayer to seek the Lord, asking,
‘What can You do here?’ and to ask for spiritual revival and that these
young people can be encouraged with hope.”

Waters, a nationally
certified bereavement facilitator and hospice volunteer, said the whole
community has been “heartsick” over the suicide epidemic. “Because of my
work in bereavement, prayer for young people especially has become a
spiritual mandate. They are our next generation and the baton is being
passed. But unless they know the value of their life, they are not going
to go forward. They are going to believe a momentary lie of Satan.
Spiritual warfare is real.”

Each
young person who ended his or her life dealt with different issues, said
Waters. Some struggled with finding their identity and with self-esteem
issues, others couldn’t handle the breakup of a relationship, some
battled drug addiction and others plunged into despair over sexual
improprieties that caused shame.

“Their burdens disabled them
from realizing there is hope,” Waters explained. “The suicides happened
in part because of tremendous spiritual warfare going on at that point
in time.”

She pointed out that hopelessness can occur at any age.
“Taking it from a spiritual perspective, when you recognize that
without Christ you don’t have the supernatural intervention of the Holy
Spirit, you are at tremendous risk then of relying on your own choices.

“While
those of us who walk in Christ can never minimize the fact that we are
always at risk of falling, we also have to recognize that because of
Christ, we are covered with a grace that unbelievers do not have. They
are fully exposed to the world’s ways and the wiles of the enemy if that
coverage is not in place.”

Another factor at play in Monmouth
County, said Waters, “is the tendency to be a copycat. You see young
people following suit. There is almost a sense of camaraderie that
occurred.”

When people aren’t of sound mind, she added, they
fail to understand that suicide is not the right option, and that there
are other ways to cope with the challenges they are facing.

Waters
has a front row seat to the crushing grief left in the wake of suicide.
“We walk parents and siblings through this process and try to help
them, counsel them and encourage them that they can go on. The survivors
of suicide have a more complicated grief process because it is
exacerbated by guilt. ‘What could I have done to prevent this?’ they
ask.”

As a professional and a Christian, Waters tries to instill
the hope of Christ and give these families courage. “You don’t want to
see this become a pattern, because sometimes that is what happens. It
becomes a familial way of finding an answer to hopelessness.”

Reaching
out for help is critical, Waters emphasized. “It is very important to
recognize that we all face periods in our life when everything seems
dark and it seems as if we will never get out of that valley of
hopelessness. Whether we are inside Christ or outside of Christ right
now, we all face those times.

“Nevertheless,” she added, “there
are answers. A tremendous number of people out there want to help you if
you are hurting. We want to make a difference. We want to get your
phone call. We want to get your email, even if you are embarrassed and
feel ashamed, we want you to respond and reach out.”

If you or
someone you love needs help, call the toll-free National Suicide
Hotline, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week: 1-800-SUICIDE (1-800-784-2433).

One
young lady who attended the Will Graham Jersey Shore Celebration
decided she needed both the hope of Christ and further help. Asking not
to be identified by her real name, Hannah* said she had enough darkness
and despair in her life. “I grew up a block away from one of the teens
who killed himself on the tracks. That is all I want to say—it still
hurts so much.

“I want to give this Jesus thing a try,” she
added. “I have nothing else to lose and I guess something to gain. I
guess I want hope.”

Close to 14,000 attended Will Graham’s Jersey
Shore Celebration; more than 880 made decisions to turn their lives
over to Jesus or recommit their lives to Him. In the latest Billy Graham
television program, you can watch a recap of the three day Celebration,
and see the impact of the 2010 Rock the River Tour West through the
eyes of local teens.

*Name changed for confidientialiy purposes

Used with permission from the Billy Graham Evangelistic Association.