If Your Child Told You ‘I’m Gay,’ What Would You Do?

Thirty-five years ago at an outdoor Christian festival, I made an erroneous statement for which I was sued for $19.5 million dollars. Thank God the case was settled. The nightmare revolved around the mistaken notion that the author of a pop psychology book was dead. The book was called, I’m OK – You’re OK.

That catchy title is repeated oftentimes to this day in counseling parents how to handle a son or daughter revealing they are gay or lesbian. “Don’t be judgmental. Convey unconditional love. Accept them as they are. Realize they’re born this way. Reassure them you’re okay and they’re okay in whatever sexual identity they choose.”

Understanding the Situation

A Catholic Republican Governor states unequivocally that he believes homosexuality is not a sin and that people are simply born that way. He’ll be speaking soon at a major conservative conference and many believe he is a viable presidential candidate. His unbiblical thinking is typical of scores in our culture today.

In addition to influential politicians, advice columnists, celebrities, talk-show hosts, sports figures, famous singers, educators, counselors and even ministers affirm and celebrate individuals of all ages who are “courageous and honest to come out” as gay, lesbian, transgender or bisexual. If you are a person of some importance, you’ll even get a congratulatory phone call from President Obama or Michelle!

Little children are featured in YouTube videos, in DVDs and in books like It’s Perfectly Normal (more than 1 million copies in print) that are used in schools across America to educate and convince children from kindergarten up that it’s okay to be gay. “I was really scared of coming out at an early age … it was soothing to hear teachers and faculty at school letting me know that it’s okay. Just to know that I had that support and to hear from other people at my school that it was okay, I think it really lifted a burden off my shoulders.” (from It’s Elementary: Talking about Gay Issues in School)

A few weeks ago in Boston a major conference of LGBT leaders and activists convened to discuss strategies for aggressively blanketing elementary, middle and high schools across the nation. Workshops and seminar sessions were held to lay out plans for continuing to establish gay clubs in every school, promote “Days of Silence” to stifle negative comments, and more effectively disseminate information to educate as well as inspire youth on the LGBT lifestyle.

This full court propaganda press is unprecedented and of epic proportions. States are now enacting laws to prevent counselors from helping a child struggling with same-sex attraction know that they can change. It is coming at our children from schools, media and political realms, including the prominent placement of gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender people in TV, music and films.

To compound the situation, we have influential ministers who in their churches, on radio, TV and interviews downplay the entire gay issue and smile explaining it’s not really part of their ministry. Their silence is deafening as they prefer to remain quiet and noncontroversial while not “offending” people they’re trying to draw into their growing ministry.

Houston’s lesbian mayor just passed a law making all public bathrooms, showers and dressing rooms totally accessible to either sex, any molester, gay, lesbian, bisexual or transgender person under the guise of “eliminating discrimination.” The mayor models gay partnership with her same-sex lover while declaring the legislation is “the most personally meaningful thing I will ever do as mayor.”

I wonder what “silent” ministers in the city will do when transgender men, identifying as women, walk in on their young daughters while they’re using a public restroom?

Apostate ministers are more upfront in actually promoting the LGBT lifestyle through their so-called “biblically-based” books, instructional DVDs or their pulpit ministry. What message is sent to the youth of America when the minister at our National Cathedral in D.C. welcomes a transgender minister to preach with, “This is in support of greater equality for the transgender community … to send a message of love and affirmation especially to LGBT youth … that’s the way God made you!”

Here’s the deal: People of faith must awaken to these demonic schemes to destroy marriage and family in America while not being surprised that more and more children and youth are entertaining demonically planted thoughts: “I’m gay” or “Am I gay?” We need godly counsel so we’re prepared to handle this emergent reality.