Help! My Prayer Group Has Gone Flaky!

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Alice Smith


prayer loses its effectiveness when intercessors get off track. Here’s
how you can stay in the flow of the Holy Spirit.

As I walked down the corridor toward the large prayer
room, several women rushed past me in a panic. They had been praying
with more than 50 intercessors from various denominations for pastors
in the United States. Eager to find out what was happening, I hurried
into the room.

An unbelievable sight met my eyes. Lying on the floor in
the middle of the room was a woman intercessor, curled up in a fetal
position and groaning as though she were being tortured. Crouched over
her was a male intercessor, who was stroking her hair and speaking
words of encouragement.

Standing around “the entertainment” were dozens of
intercessors—watching. No one was praying now. Their faces revealed
many emotions: Some were in shock; others didn’t know what to think;
most were simply disgusted.

Asked to correct the situation, I bent down, asked the
man to move away and softly whispered into the intercessor’s ear:
“Please stop what you are doing. This is not the way the Holy Spirit
would lead.”

Gruffly the woman turned her head toward me and growled, “This is the Holy Spirit.”

These kinds of activities are becoming too common in
prayer rooms across the nation. If the prayer movement does not
establish biblical boundaries and acceptable corporate conduct within
the next few years, the work of prayer could be drastically derailed.

Here are some of the flaky intercessory activities with which we should be concerned:

1. Competition in prayer. Moses’ and Aaron’s
authority to lead was challenged by Korah and his band with the
argument, “You take too much upon yourselves, for all the congregation
is holy, every one of them, and the Lord is among them. Why then do you
exalt yourselves above the assembly of the Lord? So when Moses heard
it, he fell on his face” (Num. 16:3).

Notice Moses’ answer to Korah and his rebellious
associates: “Hear now, you sons of Levi: Is it a small thing to you
that the God of Israel has separated you from the congregation of
Israel, to bring you near to Himself, to do the work of the tabernacle
of the Lord, and to stand before the congregation to serve them; and
that He has brought you near to Himself, you and all your brethren, the
sons of Levi, with you? And are you seeking the priesthood also?
Therefore you and all your company are gathered together against the
Lord” (Num. 16:8-11).

Intercessors have a unique position. We are called to
draw near to the throne, hear the voice of God and stand on behalf of
others. We who occupy this position should set an example of love,
grace, mercy and humility.

Yet I find that among intercessors there is sometimes
strife, jealousy and competition, just as there was among Korah and his
band. In some cases, the prayer room resembles the New York City stock
market trading floor, with each participant trying to pray more
frequently, prophesy longer and shout louder than the others do.

Why the spiritual tug of war?

No doubt about it—all intercession is war! But like all
of life, intercession has its ebbs and flows. Our friends would wonder
about Eddie and me if, after three decades of marriage, we were
passionately kissing every time they saw us in public. You might see
this type of thing in the movies, but meaningful, real-life
relationships are developed in private. Eddie and I don’t need to
impress anyone or prove our love to others. Our outward displays of
affection are merely an indication of an already secure and stable
private relationship.

There are times when, in the heat of battle, the
corporate prayer room seems intense, loud, demanding and pushy. After
all, Scripture says the violent take the kingdom by force! (See Matt.
11:12). But constant warfare should not be the way every prayer time is

Effective, sincere corporate prayer should reveal all the
attributes of God—His gentleness, His tender mercy, His unconditional
love and His burden for the lost. There are times when the group will
experience total silence before God. At other times, a deep travail for
the condition of lost souls will be felt. Joy, expressions of love and
celebration should occur occasionally among the intercessors. To reduce
group prayer to anything less reveals our immaturity in the private
place before God.

2. Emotionalism. Our emotions are a part of our
soul (mind, will and emotions). They were given to us by God to serve
His purposes. But to function properly, they must be brought under His
dominion. Paul instructs us, “Since then, you have been raised with
Christ, set your hearts [emotions] on things above, where Christ is
seated at the right hand of God. Set your minds on things above, not on
earthly things” (Col. 3:1-2, NIV).

Our emotions are as flexible and undependable as an
elastic measuring tape. One minute we feel happy; the next, we’re sad.
We can have a wonderful time of intimacy in prayer, and in five minutes
be yelling at our child for spilling milk on the carpet. Emotional
expressions are not necessarily an indication of either the presence,
or the lack of the presence, of God.

Amazingly, some corporate prayer groups base their entire
prayer time on emotions. Hebrews 11:1-2 tell us, “Now faith is
the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen. For
by it [faith] the elders obtained a good testimony.” It is faith that
moves the heart of God, not emotion.

By faith the elders obtained a good testimony. Yet some
of these giants of the faith were tortured, jeered at and flogged,
while others were chained and put in prison. They were stoned, sawed in
two and put to death by the sword (see vv. 35-37).

Most of these mighty men and women didn’t flinch when
they were mistreated, misunderstood, persecuted or left destitute.
Hebrews 11:38-39 (NIV) says of them, “The world was not worthy of
them…These were all commended for their faith, yet none of them
received what had been promised.” Their mind-set was one of faith, not

God knows I am emotional. Eddie calls me radical. In his
book Help! I’m Married to an Intercessor (Regal) he
describes me in his own terms:

“Alice is radical about everything! This woman would
rather watch the Houston Rockets professional basketball team play than
eat. She was a cheerleader in school when her father was the football
coach. Alice is a Dallas Cowboys football fanatic as well. When the
Cowboys game is being televised, everything at our house comes to a
screeching halt.

“Now, I like football. I tend to watch the game casually
from my recliner. I drink coffee, read the paper and talk on the phone
during the game.

Not her! Alice watches the game on her feet—even in our
living room! Pacing, lunging, warning and encouraging the players and
coaches, my radical wife is not bothered at all that they can’t hear a
word she’s saying!”

Being radical is not bad as long as you work to maintain balance in all areas of your life.

3. Inappropriate behavior. Intercessors have a
responsibility to represent the Lord both inside and outside the prayer
room. We need to learn that that which is biblical is not always
appropriate. Ongoing “weird” activity in the prayer setting is likely
to be soulish, if not demonic.

An undisciplined mind confuses soulishness and
spirituality, allowing the soul to rule over the spirit. An unruly mind
has to be “renewed day by day.” The apostle Paul reminds us: “Be not
drunk with wine, wherein is excess; but be filled with the Spirit”
(Eph. 5:18, KJV).

To be filled with the Spirit is to exercise the qualities
of the Holy Spirit. What are they? “The fruit of the Spirit is love,
joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, meekness,
temperance: against such there is no law” (Gal. 5:22-23).

Egrates, the Greek word for temperance, is translated
“self-control.” The Holy Spirit will not control you. You must control

One form of inappropriate behavior I am concerned about
is an alarming manifestation I will call “ecstasy.” This manifestation
is misdiagnosed as travail, but it is not genuine godly travail. When
it occurs, a glazed expression forms on the intercessor’s face, and he
or she voices utterances resembling expressions of sexual
gratification. I have actually seen intercessors positioned in a manner
that suggests a sexual act is happening.

Beware, women! We must ask the Lord for spiritual
discernment concerning such matters. Proper travailing prayer will not
cause physical arousal.

Dutch Sheets makes an interesting point about travail in his book, Intercessory Prayer (Regal):

“First, I believe biblical travail is an important, if
not essential, part of intercession for the lost. Second, I don’t
believe it is defined by groaning, wailing, weeping and hard work.
Natural travail certainly is, and spiritual travail can include these
things. I do not believe, however, it must include them, and I’m
convinced it is not defined by them.”

Dutch goes on to define travailing intercession. It is “a
form of intercession that releases the creative power…of the Holy
Spirit into a situation to produce, create or give birth to something.”

Not long ago at a conference, I called for repentance by
all intercessors who had ever experienced false travail such as I have
described. One woman who came forward for prayer told me that she was a
seasoned intercessor who had been praying for over 20 years. But
recently she went to a conference where a person laid hands on her for
impartation. Impartation is right!

After that incident, whenever she tried to pray she would
see Jesus as her lover and experience a physical orgasm. She had opened
herself to a false spiritual experience she did not ask the Lord about
first. At the conference she received deliverance from the evil spirit
that had seduced her.

It is clear that we must be discerning. Ephesians 5:15-16 tell
us to “walk circumspectly, not as fools but as wise, redeeming the
time, because the days are evil” (NKJV).

Evil or not, these are exciting days in which to live,
for spiritual awakenings are being seen throughout the earth. I pray we
see one here in the United States! To help bring this about, we must be
committed to maintaining our credibility in prayer. Decide now to keep
a spiritual eye on what’s going on in the prayer room and be a
Spirit-led—not a flaky—woman of prayer.

Alice Smith is co-founder and executive director of the U.S. Prayer Center in Houston. She is a member of America’s National Prayer Committee, the
International Reconciliation Coalition, and the International Strategic
Prayer Network. She is also an internationally known conference speaker and  best-selling author.

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