One the biggest fears many people experience is the fear of marrying the wrong person.
In a recent message, Alexander Pagani discussed the frustration that many people experience when they feel as though they’ve married the wrong person, and the discernment needed before entering into a marriage with someone.
“Nothing is more frustrating than being married to the wrong person,” Pagani says. “You want to do ministry, and they want to go home. Texting you in the car [to] hurry up.”
Pagani points out that people sometimes avoid getting the advice or opinion about the person they are dating from a spiritual mentor because they already know that they will be advised to step away from their boyfriend or girlfriend.
“My heart [is] breaking for people and I go, ‘why [did] you marry them then? Why are you marrying them? Because you never asked apostle’s advice because you knew I was going to tell you no,” Pagani says.
He also points out that people will then say that the Lord told them someone was the one for them, even speaking in tongues, which makes it impossible for others to say anything differently.
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“…cause now I’m blaspheming the Holy Spirit according to you,” Pagani says. “‘The Lord said marry this person,’ I’m like, they don’t even really go to church.”
Pagani’s illustration makes the excellent point that marriage is not something you enter into lightly. Using wisdom is necessary with any relationship. No matter if you are praying about a romantic relationship or any other element of life, seek God’s wisdom and heart above all things.
James 1:5 promises that: “If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives all men liberally and without criticism, and it will be given to him.” If you ask Him for wisdom, He will supply it, and He is able to supply your life with other mentors and people who can speak with words of wisdom into your life, including about your decision on who to marry.
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Abby Trivett is content development editor for Charisma Media.
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