2. Does he or she operate with humility?
In our media-driven, reality television world, it has become more and more normal for young people to work extra hard to draw attention to themselves. Because everything seems to be a competition today, young people are constantly comparing themselves to their peers. This can very easily develop into an inner attitude of conceit that suggests they are better than others.
The apostle Paul commands in Philippians 2:3 that we should “do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves.” Because humility is a basic trait of the transformed life (and a rarity in this culture), parents must train their kids to look for it in others. Because nothing can be more challenging than to be married for 50 years to an arrogant, self-centered person.