The Relational Nature of Prayer

We really are the children of God, and the dynamics of our relationship with Him are more similar to the relationship between earthly parents and their children than we might initially expect. We struggle with this because we all know that human parents don’t have the same attributes and capacities as God. This, however, does not negate the similarities.

For instance, providing for the children is not a burdensome drain upon a loving and resourceful parent. Rather, it is a deeply satisfying pleasure and honor. So it is with God and His children (see Ps. 50:15).

Jesus said, “It is more blessed to give than to receive” (Acts 20:35, NKJV). He, above all persons, seeks to experience this blessing (happiness).

God Himself has set the example of the blessedness of giving for us to emulate. Of course, this also means that “receiving” is a blessing; otherwise “giving” would be evil!

Therefore, God has ordained that we walk in the blessedness of receiving and also in the super-blessedness of giving. This is truly an ingenious basis for both an economic and a relationship system.

Just imagine what this world would be like if every person walked in the revelation of a cycle of life rooted in gratefully receiving and generously giving. It would be like heaven already is.

Happiness is not a limited commodity in the universe; it is like a holy virus that can and should be spread. Christians, above all other people, should be good advertisements for this quality of happiness.

At times earthly parents “test the desire level” in their children regarding the things that they say they want so much. Wise parents do not always respond to their children’s requests the first time the children ask.

Sometimes good parents might hold back to make sure their children are serious, or they might require them to save their own money to buy what they desire. This way it becomes worth more to the children when they finally get it.

If parents will sometimes require their children to wait patiently for their desire to be fulfilled, then the answer, when it comes, will evoke a greater and longer lasting joy and gratitude in the children’s hearts. So it is with God and His children (see Luke 11:13).

There are other situations in which parents will not automatically provide something for their children until the children specifically ask for that thing. When the children speak up, and the desire is legitimate, loving parents quickly respond to the request without a trace of a begrudging or unwilling attitude.

The children receive what they’ve asked for, but they would have gone without it had they not asked. So it is with God and His children.

“You do not have because you do not ask” (James 4:2). This has to be one of the most profoundly amazing and convicting principles in all of Scripture.

Yet again, there are times when children’s persistence ultimately prevails over any reluctance in the parents to grant a specific request. The parents see the passionate desire in their loved ones, and they simply cannot withhold the request.

The parents will even rearrange other things to fit the answer to the request into their larger plans for their children’s lives. The priorities of parents can potentially be altered by the expressed desire of their children.

God’s children at times prevail upon Him through persevering prayer (see Luke 18:1-8). It is God’s will that we prevail over His permissive will through prayer in order to see His perfect will established. This is significantly what prayer is about by its very nature–God truly listening to the voice of human beings and genuinely responding to them (see Josh. 10:14).

God likes that kind of bold “wrestling” in prayer–just as earthly fathers enjoy wrestling with their kids to affectionately bond with them and to help them develop their strength and agility. This is an amazing doctrine of Scripture that has been abused by many and ignored by most.

It remains true nonetheless. The almighty God actually desires to enter into a genuine interactive friendship with us–unmighty as we are.

Prayer is a conversation that really matters both in the heavens and on the earth. Certainly our relationship with God is the most important relationship we have.

Our Father wants us to experience the delight of an intimate relationship with Him, one in which we regularly see Him answer our prayers. Jesus said, “Ask, and you will receive, that your joy may be full” (John 16:24).

God is our Father, and He loves to hear our voices and respond to our stated needs. We must take the time and expend the energy to keep up our dialogue with Him.




The Rebirth of Kirk Franklin

The popular gospel recordng star endured a painful season that included lawsuits and a struggle with pornography. Now he’s enjoying a spiritual transformation.
He has sold more than 10 million albums in less than a decade. He’s a three-time Grammy Award winner, a seven-time Dove Award winner and a 20-time Stellar Award winner. His smash hit “Stomp” from the triple-platinum album God’s Property (1997) landed him in heavy rotation on MTV–at the time, a feat practically unheard of in Christian music circles.


Kirk Franklin, the self-described “church boy”–as he titled his 1998 autobiography–has taken his zeal for God and coupled it with R&B and hip-hop musical styles and caused a revolution. One by one his hit songs helped erode discriminatory walls of religion and tradition in the church, and it all happened by the time he was 30.


Now 33, Franklin is just as busy praising God as he was when he first showed talent in Christian music at the age of 4. Whether or not that was when he first started pointing people to God, he’s certainly been doing it ever since.


With mostly platinum and multiplatinum albums under his belt, every project this songwriter has put his hands to has turned either gold or platinum. “Stomp” skyrocketed to an impressive No. 4 on Billboard magazine’s R&B/Hip-Hop singles chart. “Why We Sing,” from his first album, remained on the magazine’s Gospel charts for 100 weeks.


And Franklin’s strong crossover draw with mainstream listeners also has landed him on the cover of secular publications such as Vibe and Jet magazines. Though the Fort Worth, Texas, native admits he’s not the world’s best singer, many consider him a songwriter par excellence.


But at the height of his career, in the 1990s, Franklin’s Midas-touch success had to endure the Refiner’s fire. Internal struggles led to the breakup of his group and other problems.


“God was blessing our projects. The response to the albums was big–I mean extremely big. But privately, I couldn’t enjoy it because of what was happening,” Franklin told Charisma.


“What was happening” were two lawsuits that plagued his ministry, and a private struggle with pornography. Now that his problems are behind him, he refers to that time in his life as the “wilderness,” from which he says he has emerged.


The Birth of a Ministry


Long before there were any multimillion-dollar recording contracts and throngs of admirers scurrying to concerts to watch him perform, Franklin was known simply as “Gertrude’s boy.” His elderly aunt, Gertrude Franklin, whom he calls Mamma, adopted him when his biological mother abandoned him. Although Gertrude was up in age, she took young Kirk to Mount Rose Baptist Church religiously during his early years.


He was only around 4 years old when he told Mamma he wanted to be a preacher.


“I was watching television with Mamma when a rerun of Martin Luther King Jr. reciting his ‘I Have a Dream’ speech came on. I told her then that I wanted to preach,” Franklin recalls with a big smile. He can remember his pastor calling him to the pulpit to give a closing prayer.


By the time he was 7, Kirk was offered his first recording contract, but Mamma declined the offer. And when money was tight and Mamma couldn’t pay for his music lessons, she collected cans and sold them to cover the cost. Her efforts paid off when he, at age 11, was appointed choir director at his church.


When he was a teenager, Franklin says, he considered Mamma’s Baptist teachings to be strict and overbearing. Today, with four children of his own, he admits that the Scripture verses she rattled off and the biblical truths and lessons of holiness she instilled in him years ago have sustained him during the turbulent times of his life and keep him grounded today.


Mamma, however, did not see the fruit of her labor. She died when he was 17.


By the time he’d reached his early 20s, Franklin was well-known in Dallas music circles. Still, it wasn’t until a deacon in his church suggested he cut an album that he started his own group, The Family. In 1992, he sought out 17 musically gifted singers, some of whom were longtime friends of his, to be part of the group.


The deacon who suggested the album also financed the project, and in 1993 Franklin released his self-titled debut album, Kirk Franklin and The Family. The freshman project produced the blockbuster single “Why We Sing,” and the record went platinum, putting the group on the map.


“I’ll never forget it,” Franklin recalls. “I added all of my bills including my child support for my son, and then I told the Lord that if He would just bless me to make $24,000 a year, I would be happy.” After the album hit music stands, Franklin was shocked by the sales and concert attendance. Instead of $24,000 a year, he made $24,000 a month.


Two years later, Franklin released two more albums with The Family, Whatcha Lookin’ 4 and Christmas. Whatcha Lookin’ 4 went platinum, and Christmas was a gold album.


In 1996, Franklin married Tammy Collins, a 26-year-old Fort Worth native who worked as a makeup artist. The same year, he joined forces with the Dallas-based group God’s Property, a move that added a whole new dimension to his music. When their joint single, “Stomp,” later sold 3 million copies, Franklin, in particular, was catapulted into mainstream music circles.


“God’s Property and Kirk Franklin was the answer to the Christian music dilemma,” says Dahlia Jones, a member of the Florida A&M University Gospel Choir. “There are a huge number of people who like either urban, hip-hop or contemporary Christian music, but just several years ago the church was dragging its feet on embracing anything that had a beat.”


Jones says “Stomp” was the answer to a younger generation’s prayers.


Franklin is the first to admit that he wasn’t prepared for the backlash of criticism leveled at him by traditional churches because of his music’s upbeat, makes-you-wanna-dance style. Nor was he ready for the avalanche of attention he received from people who didn’t profess Christ at all.


When he traveled he was invited to stay in nice hotel suites and ride in limousines. Arsenio Hall, Jay Leno and David Letterman all invited him on their TV programs. When he fell off a stage once in Memphis, Tennessee, Jesse Jackson visited him. Get-well cards and flowers poured in from well-known people including former heavyweight boxing champion Mike Tyson.


Things were flourishing for the little boy who had high hopes of being a preacher like Martin Luther King Jr. It wouldn’t be long, though, before his dream would seem more like a nightmare.


Transformed by God


One sign of disappointment came in 1998 when Franklin lost the fellowship of someone he considered a spiritual father. It was during this low point in his life that God led him to a church that did not cater to the “Christian celebrity.”


When he arrived at Oak Cliff Bible Fellowship in Dallas, he was stunned by the lesson God had in store for him–which began right away in the church’s overflow parking lot.


“I was heated because I couldn’t find a place to park. Mind you, I’d become Kirk Franklin, and I had reserved parking wherever I went, or I had someone to park my car for me,” he recalls.


Not only did he have to park in a distant lot, but he also was forced to sit in the church balcony after he was unable to find seating in the lower level of the sanctuary. That was the first time he started to see attitudes in himself that he didn’t know were there.


Yet something about pastor Tony Evans’ message prompted Franklin to return Sunday after Sunday. Though he considered the music too “Anglo,” he joined the church because it met a deep spiritual need. Evans, who had founded the church 26 years before, treats all members with genuine love and respect.


“One of the great tragedies is when we give people the impression that a certain status in society gives them kingdom privileges,” Evans, 53, told Charisma. “The only thing that gives you privileges is your humility and servanthood to the Lord Jesus.”


Evans says although he believes in giving “honor to whom honor is due,” as the Bible says (see Rom. 13:7), he says pastors commit a disservice to their congregations and send the wrong message to members if they believe certain people should be accepted on the basis of performance.


“Celebrityism decimates Christian ministry and the church,” Evans says.


Franklin was grateful to God for Evans’ solid Bible teaching, and he knew that Evans would be the right person to help him with another personal problem. Sexual thoughts beginning at age 10 had eventually led Franklin into pornography. Again, Evans helped Franklin gain a spiritually healthy approach to his struggle.


“I shared with him how to live under grace,” Evans says. “He was living under the law or a performance-based approach to living for God, which is always defeating. I helped him understand walking in the Spirit, intimacy with God and how to draw near to Him.”


After learning the principles of life under grace, Franklin gained total victory over pornography.


Franklin insists that churches should foster open discussion on the issue–which he himself did when he appeared on Bishop T.D. Jakes’ The Potter’s Touch TV program and talked candidly about his own struggle.


He also cautions parents to beware of what he calls a “Lucifer spirit” that can captivate children who have artistic gifts or leanings. He believes the devil wants to pervert creativity in children gifted with artistic expression.


“Lucifer was very beautiful and talented and wanted to be like God. Sexuality for creative people is a time bomb because creative people don’t program things the way other people do,” he says.


Franklin points out that when he was a child growing up, sexuality was always a part of his life.


But just as Franklin started getting the victory in one area of his life, he found himself struggling in other areas. While working on The Kirk Franklin Show for Universal/ABC, the sitcom was dropped suddenly from the network’s lineup.


“That took a chunk out of me because everything I had done professionally up until that time was successful,” Franklin explains. Then there was the talk of a lawsuit by the founder of the group God’s Property.


“That album came out, and because I was so involved in it creatively, and she had her own vision for it, we started to clash,” Franklin told Charisma.


He started working with a group of African American and Hispanic youth called One Nation Crew, which he nicknamed “1NC.” But the purpose of his newly formed group was not just to sing. 1NC was created to attract young people to events that ministered to them through song and the Word.


In 1998, Franklin and 1NC came out with the blockbuster hit “Revolution,” from the Nu Nation Project.


Suddenly, Christians and unbelievers alike were singing the song’s lyrics that addressed the spiritual and moral decline of society: “Sick and tired of my brothas/Killing each other/Sick and tired of daddies leaving/Babies with their mothers/To every man that wants to lay around and play around/Listen potnah you should be man enough to stay around.”


“Revolution” also addressed the religiosity of many churches today.


“Sick and tired of the church talkin religion/But yet they talk about each other makin decisions/No more racism/Two facism/No pollution/The solution/A revolution/Do you want a revolution?/Do you want a revolution?”


But when the album did not do as well as the others–though it sold 2 million copies–Franklin was extremely disappointed. In fact, any time one of his projects did not sell as well as the previous one had, he saw it as a failure. It didn’t matter if the record had been a huge success by industry standards.


As if to make things worse, the first lawsuit hit on the same day “Revolution” released. As word traveled about that suit, Franklin was notified of a second one. Other people were being named in the suits, but it was his name that kept surfacing with the public.


Today he does not like to discuss the particulars of the multimillion-dollar legal cases, other than to say: “Both lawsuits ended up being destructive for everyone, and nobody won anything. That’s the truth.”


Looking back, Franklin says legal woes and battles over failed albums were certainly difficult but that his own identity problem was the true enemy of his success. He had no way of knowing how much attention he would receive just for being a platinum-selling music artist. As a child he had longed for recognition, so the ultralavish affirmation he received from musical success devastated him because he had to have more of it.


“Selling a lot of albums and crossing over made me famous, and it gave me an audience. It gave me validation. It was almost like I was the worst person God could have ever chosen for it because it’s like sending a crack addict to be a missionary in a crack house,” he explains.


After going through several seasons of being angry with God and asking Him, “Why did You cross me over if You knew You were going to pull it from me?” Franklin is grateful that God used his triple-platinum albums, TV appearances, gold albums and more to break him and get his attention.


“God used He knew that would be the tool to break me,” Franklin says. “He was right.”


Teresa Hairston, the Nashville, Tennessee-based publisher of Gospel Today and Gospel Industry Today magazines–the leading consumer and trade magazines covering gospel music–says Franklin’s success is rooted in his uniqueness. She points out that he almost single-handedly helped to bridge gospel music and secular listeners, and she echoes his belief that only God could have authored his success.


“Kirk took urban gospel and fused it with mainstream audiences,” Hairston says. “This wasn’t something he was able to manufacture. God did it, and then He opened a door for Kirk to be used.”


Nowadays Franklin crisscrosses the country offering hope and a timely word about God’s love in his concerts. His current album, The Rebirth of Kirk Franklin, already is raking in nominations, including the NAACP’s Image Award for Outstanding Album.


Franklin’s wary of the attention he knows will come from another successful album. But he’s willing to let God use his music. He knows it’s one more way for him to tell everyone he knows, firsthand, that God can and will deliver His people in the toughest of times.



Yours, Mine and Ours


Kirk and Tammy Franklin say their blended family is a testimony.


If you ask Kirk Franklin what gives him joy in life, he won’t respond with a laundry list of TV shows he’s appeared on. Neither will he give you a rundown of the many accolades he’s received–including his being selected as People magazine’s “sexiest” gospel artist of 2002.


What really matters to both Kirk and his wife, Tammy, is their family. They consider Kerrion, 14; Carrington, 13; Kennedy, 5; and Caziah, 2, their greatest accomplishment of all. Living the life of a gospel artist is hectic and stressful at times, but the couple say they decided early in their marriage to do two things: put each other first, and provide a normal, healthy and loving environment for their kids.


“When I return home from a long road trip, I have a decision to make, Should I not be bothered with my kids because I’m too tired, or should I take time out to play with them? I choose to be with my children,” Kirk says.


Maybe that’s why toddler “ZiZi” ran to the front door sounding like a broken record when Kirk returned from his interview with Charisma. “Hi, Daddy! Hi, Daddy! Hi, Daddy!” Caziah blurted, as his father scooped him into his arms.


Tammy, who is a stay-at-home mother, is committed to rearing godly, responsible children. That’s why the two teenagers in the family have limited telephone time and have to earn their modest allowance, which is given to them as a check in an effort to help them learn financial-management skills.


Because her children have the opportunity to attend such events as the nationally televised Grammy Awards and BET Awards programs, Tammy says it’s very important that they have a realistic view of life. “My daughter has autographed pictures from basketball players and from others such as Lil’ Bow Wow, but that’s not realistic,” she says.


Referring to her family as “ready-made” because the couple both have had children outside of marriage, Tammy knows that God has given the two of them a platform from which to share their testimonies with others.


“For Kirk to stand up and say: ‘I had a baby before I got married. Don’t do it,’ or for me to share my experience because I know a lot of girls have babies before they get married–only the Lord could do that,” she stresses.


The challenges of being a blended family have strengthened the couple’s resolve to seek God for His wisdom as parents.


Having gone through the highs and lows of being a minister’s wife, Tammy is comfortable with being herself.


“When we first got married, I was overwhelmed with who I was and what I was supposed to be,” the former makeup artist said. She went from wearing big-brimmed hats and gloves and feeling like she was dressed up for Halloween to realizing who she was created to be.


“God started reminding me that I was uniquely made by Him and that girls needed to see that a person could be in love with the Lord and sold out for Him and still wear blue jeans,” she explains.


For now, the 33-year-old mother says her primary ministry is twofold: being at home with her kids and being available to her husband when he needs her help in his ministry. She plans one day to reach out in ministry to single mothers.


As for Kirk, the test of his calling is doing what God wants him to do in the field as a gospel artist and a minister while being the husband and father God wants him to be at home.


“The more I learn about dying to myself, the more I learn about being successful in life,” he says.



Time to Come Clean


Kirk Franklin says his porn addiction was linked to a craving for acceptance.


Kirk and Tammy Franklin spoke candidly with Charisma about the dangers of pornography and how it destroys lives. They hope that by sharing their story marriages will be saved and families will be strengthened or restored.


Charisma: How did you get hooked on pornography?


Kirk Franklin: With magazines. We have to understand something about pornography. Porn is perceived as not being a dirty thing anymore. It’s looked at like you’re not cheating, which is a trick of the enemy, of course. But you are cheating. The Bible says whatever a man thinks, so is he. Porn gets written off as not being dangerous, but it is.


Being young and being around other kids, things happen that shouldn’t. There are seemingly innocent little games that kids play, like “hide and go get it.” Some of those experiences never leave the mind. They become habitual.


People get hooked on porn in a number of ways. A drunken man will give a child some money to go to the corner store to buy a dirty magazine for him. Or someone’s older brother has a dirty magazine in his bedroom and his younger brother finds it and takes it to the park for other kids to see.


Charisma: Is it addictive?


Kirk Franklin: It is very addictive. But when God started giving me the victory over it, it was not as addictive as the [need for acceptance] I struggled with. When I shared my problem with my wife, I told her that it was going to be harder to break my addiction to people than my addiction to porn.


For God to have called me to public ministry like He has is nothing short of His love for me. I am the most ill-equipped person on the planet because of my struggle with the acceptance of people.


Charisma: Explain how this need for acceptance affected you.


Kirk Franklin: I wanted to be liked and popular. I wanted to be known and validated.


Wanting to be approved of is a thorn that I struggle with even now. Being popular in music just fed that. When my pastor told me I needed to be discipled, something screamed out in me, Yes! Discipleship fills up the holes in a person’s life.


Charisma: How did you react when Kirk confessed that he had a problem with pornography?


Tammy Franklin: It was a challenge, but for some reason God has gifted me with the ability to communicate with people, and that’s what I did. I’m able to listen to people and put myself in their shoes.


I did not judge him. If he was transparent enough–or, I should say, fearless enough–to tell me, I knew the least I could do was listen and try to understand. What blessed me is this: He looked at pornography as something wrong. There are a lot of guys who don’t look at it that way. They don’t think it’s wrong.


Charisma: What advice would you offer other women whose husbands are battling pornography?


Tammy Franklin: Be understanding, but hold him accountable. My husband wanted to change, which made it possible to deal with the problem. He said to me: “I’m not happy about this.”


If he had responded differently, I would not have overlooked his behavior. Plus, I wasn’t willing to just sit back and let the enemy attack my husband like that, so I covered him in prayer. Don’t ever stop praying.


Charisma: How do you suggest protecting children from pornography?


Tammy Franklin: We watch our children. We look for the telltale signs. Do they feel loved? Do they feel accepted? I think talking with kids is the best defense. Be available to them.


One thing we do is watch secular videos with our oldest son, and we use it as a ministry tool. We want him to have a proper view of women, and he’s learning that those videos give boys a warped view of women.


These support groups offer help for those who struggle with pornography:


Heart to Heart Counseling Centers
Doug Weiss, director
(719) 278-3708


Overcomers Outreach
(800) 310-3001


For Men Only / For Women Only
A ministry of East Hill Church
(503) 661 -4444


Sexaholics Anonymous
(615) 331-6230


Valerie G. Lowe is an associate editor with Charisma. She interviewed Kirk and Tammy Franklin at their home in Dallas.




Mom Is Raising Them Alone

Shunned and stigmatized, single mothers are one of the fastest growing demographic groups in the church. How can we respond to their unique needs?

Tina was a 16-year-old, all-around athletic high-school student. When she wasn’t cheerleading or hurdling her way through track meets, she was breaking records in volleyball and gymnastics. And like most teenagers her age, she enjoyed shopping at the local mall with her buddies and talking on the telephone.

But what really put the sparkle in Tina’s eye was her new boyfriend. Her feelings for him started as a typical high-school crush, but they soon led her to sneak out of the house–not just to happily spend more time with him, but also to escape an abusive family environment. Her father had murdered her mother in a heated argument when Tina was just under 5 years old.

Tina’s search for unconditional love would make her a statistic just like millions of other women before her–she soon got pregnant and had an abortion.

Two years later, in 1983, the 18-year-old found herself in the same predicament. She had met a man, gotten pregnant and had had a second abortion. One year later, Tina realized she was pregnant with a third unwanted child, but this time God intervened.

Her friend had a dream about blood flowing from someone, but she didn’t know who. Tina recommended that her friend discuss the dream with her pastor. His interpretation: Tell your friend Tina not to send God any more babies.

Tina had already made an appointment for a third abortion, but the pastor’s words were convicting. “I just couldn’t bring myself to have another abortion. I just couldn’t do it,” she says.

Tina House, who’s now 38 and lives in Orlando, Florida, says she surrendered her will to God and decided to have the baby. Nine months later she gave birth to twin girls.

Her decision had broader implications than she had imagined. She not only had the responsibility of caring for two children; she had to do it on her own.

Brenda Ajamian’s story has a different beginning but a similar ending. Married to a minister for 24 years, Brenda lived in Gaithersburg, Maryland, with her husband and their three children. Early in their marriage, the Ajamians had worked as missionaries in the Middle East.

The two were outwardly a doting couple held in high regard among members in their hometown church. That quickly changed in 1990, when her husband moved out of the house after it was discovered that he was having an affair with a woman from Taiwan.

“My husband was teaching English as a second language in the public school system when he became interested in a woman 15 years his junior,” Brenda recalls.

Brenda was fearful at the thought of having to care for her family alone, but she was devastated to learn that her husband’s mistress deliberately came to the United States to marry an American who could secure visas for her children.

Out of desperation, Brenda says she turned to her pastor and other church members for counseling and emotional support. Instead of receiving love and understanding from people, she was hurt by their cold responses.

“The pastor treated me as if I had done something wrong, like it was my fault that my husband was cheating on me,” she says.

Like many other women, Brenda was facing the reality not just of being the sole provider for her family, but also of discovering that some Christians would now treat her differently.

For single moms who have been widowed, the circumstances are often different. They don’t face the stigma of having had a divorce or an unwed pregnancy, and churches tend to respond to them with more compassion. Though they face many of the same financial struggles other single parents deal with, several widows say churches were quick to meet their immediate needs, including funeral costs, food and grief counseling. However, they said churches were not as committed to helping them in the years that followed.

After interviewing several single parents, Charisma discovered that they and their children are among the most needy families in the body of Christ. They all face the same difficult tasks of paying the mortgage, buying a car, pulling double shifts at work, feeding their families and maintaining an emotionally healthy life.

In addition, many of these parents worry that their children will become statistics or will not have the same advantages as children from two-parent households. They say they can’t spread themselves thin enough, and many are afraid to make major decisions, such as big purchases, lest they make a mistake.

Some also feel a sense of guilt for their predicaments. They’re hoping Christians across the country will take note that there’s more to their story. The role of “single parent” falls on people from all racial, economic and denominational backgrounds. It plays no favorites–except perhaps in the church, where indications are single parents are made to feel they don’t measure up to traditional families.

The Plight of Single Parents

The emotional sting Tina and Brenda experienced years ago has subsided, but their stories ring true in many churches today. According to the U.S. Census Bureau, there are 10 million single mothers and 2 million single fathers in America.

For single parents, the enormous pressure of being all things to a family is compounded by the reality of not having the physical, emotional and financial strength to carry out their duties. Some hold down two jobs to provide for their children. Others leave their younger kids with older siblings because they can’t afford the skyrocketing cost of daily child care.

The lack of money is one of the main reasons many of these women are forced to choose between buying an old, used car or obtaining healthcare for their children. It’s no wonder that some mothers who are rearing their children alone consider single parenting the greatest challenge they’ve ever faced.

Christian single parents are responsible for providing the spiritual leadership needed in their families–in addition to attending school functions, preparing meals, paying all the bills and helping with homework. In a two-parent home, these responsibilities are typically shared between a husband and wife.

Today, Brenda Ajamian is an aide to David Simmons, a state representative from Longwood, Florida. A politically savvy 60-year-old, Ajamian has worked with politicians such as Florida Gov. Jeb Bush. But she’s not too busy to encourage churches to make an assertive effort at helping women who are struggling.

“Many times these mothers just want someone to listen to their concerns, like I did. And ministry leaders have a mandate from God to do so,” says Ajamian, who is an ordained minister.

It was a decade ago that then-Vice President Dan Quayle openly criticized the TV character Murphy Brown for having a child out of wedlock. Many advocates of welfare reform say the only thing that has changed in the 10 years since then are the alarming statistics and obvious consequences of fatherlessness in America.

According to The American Prospect, a biweekly political publication, children who grow up with only one of their biological parents “are disadvantaged across a broad array of outcomes.” The Census Bureau notes that children from single-parent homes are twice as likely to drop out of high school before they turn 18 than children from two-parent homes, and 2.5 times as likely to have children out of wedlock.

For Tina House, the statistics held true.

“My twins were 15 years old when they told me they were pregnant,” says House who considered but declined to make both of her daughters have abortions. “I thought back to my own abortions and remembered that the Lord told me not to send Him anymore babies.”

That’s when the Houses’ pastor, Jonathan L. McKnight, of Sanctuary of Praise Church, stepped in. He refused to allow church members to criticize or shun the teens. Instead, he saw to it that House’s grandsons had enough food and diapers to last them a year.

Some say the pastor’s actions are a far cry from the way churches used to deal with single mothers. According to one church member, who requested not to be identified in this report, one reason churches did not help women in the past was because they considered out-of-wedlock pregnancy a woman’s problem or her fault–while the man involved was never chastised.

There was a time in many Pentecostal and Holiness churches when these women were told they had to stand before the church, confess their behavior to the congregation and then ask for forgiveness. If the woman was a single mother due to divorce, she was not permitted to serve in ministry and was told to remain silent in the church.

“There were some congregants who openly struggled with vices such as drugs and alcohol or stealing, but they were never made to come before the church and repent,” the member explained.

According to a 1997 Census study on single parents and how they fare, children who live with a divorced single parent have an advantage over children who live with a parent who has never married, and an even greater edge if the parent is the father.

The data revealed that the level of education and financial stability greatly contribute to the overall success of a child. Researchers say that in many cases, low test scores, truancy and promiscuous behavior all stem from growing up in a home with one parent.

Because of the grim outlook on one-parent homes, some women say the church must reposition itself to help families. When Charlotte Decker learned that she would have to rear her teenage grandson alone, she was certain that a few men in her church would serve as a surrogate father to him. She was wrong. She says the more trouble Tyson found himself in, the more her church in Kailua Kona, Hawaii, seemed to avoid him.

“When certain brothers learned that my 17-year-old grandson was returning home from jail, they turned a deaf ear to my request for them to reach out to him,” says Decker, who has been a missionary with Youth With a Mission since 1985. Many people like Decker insist that the church has a responsibility to uphold Psalm 68:5, “A father of the fatherless, a defender of the widows, is God in His holy habitation” (NKJV).

Meeting Single Parents’ Needs

Not all churches forego the opportunity to serve one-parent families. Today, many of them, especially urban ministries, are finding ways to help lighten the load of those in need.

From Mom’s Day Out programs, free child care and food giveaways to free car repairs, support groups and job-placement services, some congregations are intentionally reaching a generation of single-parent families. People who minister to this particular group say in order to be effective, congregants will have to go beyond the church if they want to win souls to Christ.

Bent Tree Bible Fellowship, a nondenominational church in Carrollton, Texas, focuses on meeting the spiritual and emotional needs of members through its Single Parent Family Ministry. The church offers programs such as Lifeline, Zipline, Chalkline and Outline.

Held at different times of the month, the programs focus on small-group Bible study, entertaining fellowship opportunities and tutorial lessons for children of single-parent families. The church also offers support groups for children and teens of divorce.

Many churches around the country offer their entire congregations free or inexpensive dinners on the evenings Bible study is held. Others offer three- and four-day camping trips or retreats that are designed specifically for single-parent families.

Megachurches such as West Angeles Church of God in Christ (COGIC) in Los Angeles, are not too big to meet one-parent families at their greatest point of need. “In our workshops, we help single parents realize that they are not alone,” explains Brenda Brown James, who leads the church’s Children ministry.

James Dobson, founder of Focus on the Family, says in his book Complete Marriage and Family Home Reference Guide that the church must extend a hand to those who struggle to care for their families.

Mary Ann Archible, who heads the single parent ministry at Upper Room COGIC in Raleigh, North Carolina, shares Dobson’s sentiments. She says her church addresses the practical issues confronting both single mothers and fathers. The program she oversees pairs professional, educated single mothers with young unwed mothers for mentoring.

“We help them work through their immediate problems and [pastor Patrick Wooten] addresses their spiritual needs,” says Archible, who is a single mother of three.

Dallas-based Oak Cliff Bible Fellowship, pastored by Tony Evans, has a single-parent ministry that provides minor car repairs for parents who attend their program. Certified mechanics check the oil, fix flat tires, replace spark plugs and provide other services. As a result, the parents get instruction in basic car care.

“Our goal is to equip, support and disciple our single parents back to wholeness,” says James Womack, who oversees the program.

With a database of 400 parents, Womack says the ministry focuses on 12 keys to successful single parenting that include communication, housing, education and career, budgeting, parenting tips and more.

“We do a lot of encouraging and praying for our participants,” he adds.

Katrina Spigner, a chaplain for the Center for Child and Family Studies at the University of South Carolina in Columbia, says when a single parent is looking for a church to join, the person should consider a ministry that is committed to transforming the lives of its members with the Word of God and that is aware of the special needs of these families. Spigner travels to churches in her city and in surrounding areas conducting workshops and seminars on topics such as loss and grief in the family.

“Single parents deal with many losses. There is the loss of fellowship, the loss of personal relationships, financial losses and others that the church must address,” Spigner says.

A church that fosters an atmosphere of love and acceptance among its families, whether those families are headed by two parents or one, is the kind of church that most single mothers told Charisma they are attracted to. They say they are not looking for handouts, just a place that is biblically sound and will help relieve them of some of the pressures they face as parents.


Valerie G. Lowe is a former associate editor for Charisma and Ministry Today magazines. A single mother, she ministers in churches and plans to write a book soon. 




Mope No More

Contentment doesn’t mean singles should mope through life waiting on a mate.
As a journalist, I ask a lot of questions. I ask questions such as: “When did you first sense the call of God on your life?” “Have you ever been arrested?” “What is your wife’s name?” “Is that a church or a cult?”


There are times, however, when curious readers and those who I meet as I travel in ministry ask me questions. Their inquiries run the gamut: “Do you have children?” “What’s your denominational affiliation?” “What made you choose journalism as a career?”


The list goes on. But the one question I’m inevitably asked is: “Are you married?”


There was a time when it seemed as if I was asked this more often than I was asked my name. Whenever I’d say, “No, I’m not married,” the person would dig even deeper.


“But why? I don’t understand; you appear to be a very nice woman. Why aren’t you married?”


Without fail, some well-meaning brother or sister in the Lord would offer me a plethora of suggestions about how to land a husband who loves God and who is intelligent, caring, handsome, protective and an excellent provider.


If I would allow them to torture me long enough, they would even try to “set me up” with one of their cousins who doesn’t love God and who is unintelligent, uncaring, unattractive, unprotective and slothful. This would happen to me quite a bit.


As a result, whenever I’d attend church functions where large numbers of married couples were in attendance, I would feel awkward, as if my “other half” was missing. And though I was involved in a singles ministry and enjoyed the fellowship of others like me, I eventually stopped attending the functions because they seemed like just another night out.


For too long, single women and some men have bought into the lie that they are somehow incomplete because they’re not married. Unfortunately, the church perpetuates this sort of thinking, but it’s definitely not true, and it’s unbiblical.


There was a time when I constantly asked God about marriage. His response to me is my encouragement to you: Learn to be content in Christ as He unfolds His plans and purposes for your life–but by all means, have a life!


Scripture tells us “godliness with contentment is great gain” (see 1 Tim. 6:6), and it is. But contentment doesn’t mean people should mope through life waiting on a mate.


For instance, I refused to purchase a home when I was in my mid-20s because I was “waiting on my husband” to do that. I can remember when I put off taking a luxury vacation for the same reason. But now that I’m in my 30s, I no longer make decisions based on marital status.


And nowadays, I hang out with both married couples and singles. I don’t isolate myself because I believe that in the body of Christ we need one another.


There are countless singles in the church who are raring to advance the kingdom of God, who want to influence their communities with creative ministry, but it doesn’t mean they want to be used as an automatic labor pool because they don’t have a mate. Neither do they want to be overlooked for ministry opportunities because they’re single.


When the church embraces, affirms and ministers to the unique needs of singles, then these people, in turn, willingly and abundantly bless the church with their unique gifts and their individual sense of God’s purpose in their lives.


If you’re single, you’ve probably heard all the catchy little sayings directed at us: “Jesus is your husband”; “Wait on God”; “He that findeth a wife findeth a good thing, so go hide yourself!”


All this sounds great in theory or makes us laugh on Sundays, but living it daily can be a big challenge for some singles, though it isn’t impossible.


Look at Jesus’ life. He was in perfect relationship with the Father, but He was confronted with the same issues singles grapple with today. Through the years, TV producers have even tried to “set Jesus up” with people such as Mary Magdalene in their portrayal of Him, which is unscriptural.


But Jesus was isolated, alienated and often felt alone (and sometimes was). Yet His message of covenant love isn’t directed at one particular group. It never has been. It’s for every single one of us.


Valerie G. Lowe is an associate editor with Charisma and Ministries Today magazines. She lives in central Florida.




God’s Man in Memphis

Narrowly escaping death twice, Gilbert Patterson has long known that God had a plan for his life. Today he believes he was spared to lead the Church of God in Christ into the 21st century.

On June 13, 1975, a lone gunman named Willie C. Cheatham positioned himself across the street from Temple of Deliverance Church in Memphis, Tennessee, waiting for the young pastor of the congregation, Gilbert Earl Patterson, to exit the building. Cheatham peered through the scope of his .22-caliber rifle, his chin propped against the gun’s shoulder stock, waiting. He was angry at Patterson for preaching against domestic violence.


As Patterson exited the church building and walked toward his car, he noticed Cheatham. “What’s that?” Patterson thought to himself before he realized it was a weapon Cheatham was holding and aiming at him. Pop! Pop! Pop! retorted the rifle as the gunman started firing at the preacher.


Maybe it was the noonday prayer that preacher Patterson had just finished that kept him from sudden death. Or perhaps the Lord dispatched a legion of angels to protect him. One thing is certain–when the shooting stopped, 14 bullet holes lined the old meat market next to the church, but Patterson had reached his car before the shooting started and sped off.


Twenty-one years later, October 1996, Patterson was in a car with three other men as they drove west on Interstate 40 en route to Memphis from a preaching engagement. Suddenly, the driver slipped into unconsciousness. The man’s body went rigid, causing his hands to freeze to the steering wheel and his foot to force the gas peddle to the floor.


Patterson grabbed the steering wheel with his left hand, but did nothing to pry the driver’s hands free. Instead, he says the Lord spoke to him and told him to take his right hand and place the gear shift in neutral. The car slowed down.


When Patterson recalls the near misses that almost took his life, he says he is certain of one thing: “God didn’t allow me to die, because I have a call on my life. I’m destined.”


A Man of the People


Recent events in the life of Gilbert “G.E.” Patterson indicate destiny is still his close companion. Just 11 months ago he was elected presiding bishop of the nation’s largest Pentecostal denomination, the Church of God in Christ (COGIC), headquartered in his hometown of Memphis.


Patterson took office with a passion to serve his denomination in the same dedicated way as its founder, Charles Harrison Mason. He continues to pastor his 14,000-member Temple of Deliverance COGIC in Memphis, and with a million-dollar multimedia ministry at his disposal he believes he has a mandate from heaven to storm the country with a no-frills, life-changing gospel.


As a third-generation preacher with the soul-winning zeal of a Billy Graham, Patterson doesn’t take lightly the responsibility of fulfilling the Great Commission. “We must pursue people and compel them to turn to Jesus. He’s our only hope in a world that hardly knows Him,” he says.


Patterson has carried that fire with him since his last year of high school, when he started preaching at age 17. When he was 22 he became the co-pastor of his father’s church, Holy Temple COGIC. Today the Patterson name turns more heads in Memphis than most of the city’s politicians.


Patterson’s first cousin, J.O. Patterson Jr., was a former acting mayor of Memphis and chairman of COGIC’s general assembly–the voting body of the denomination. Patterson’s father, the late Bishop W.A. Patterson, was the jurisdictional bishop for churches in North Carolina. His uncle, Bishop J.O. Patterson Sr., married COGIC founder Mason’s daughter and was the denomination’s presiding bishop from 1968 until he died in 1989.


Yet, the new bishop’s influence extends well beyond the city–which is famous both as the last home of legendary entertainer Elvis Presley and the site where civil rights leader Martin Luther King Jr. was gunned down in 1968 at the Lorraine Motel.


Most observers attribute Patterson’s prominence to the millions who watch his weekly broadcast on Black Entertainment Television (BET), Word Network and the Trinity Broadcasting Network (TBN). Vinson Synan, author of The Century of the Holy Spirit (Thomas Nelson) and dean of the divinity school at Regent University, calls Patterson “one of the best preachers on the face of the planet.”


Some attribute Patterson’s success to his willingness to confront sensitive issues, such as race and gender, and to cross cultural boundaries to preach to diverse audiences. Still others believe the reason for Patterson’s popularity is his love for people. They jokingly say he is so well-liked that even as a Pentecostal pastor he could run for president of the non-Pentecostal National Baptist Convention and win.


With all the attention he receives, one might think Patterson is untouchable. “Not so” says Bishop Jerry Maynard, the bishop’s chief of staff. “Bishop Patterson is a down-to-earth leader who is sensitive to the people’s needs.”


Maybe that’s why Patterson, who turns 62 this month, doesn’t surround himself with an entourage of yes-men and instead is most often seen with an attractive, poised woman–Louise Patterson–his wife of 34 years.


Charisma spoke with Bishop Patterson in Birmingham, Alabama, recently, where he talked about his early days in ministry, his views on women in ministry and his vision for COGIC in the 21st century.


Winds of Change


While most Americans focused their attention last fall on one of the most highly contested presidential elections in U.S. history, 850 miles away from the nation’s capital, another battle was brewing at Cook Convention Center in Memphis. For the first time in its 103-year history, COGIC made an unprecedented move: The general assembly voted a sitting presiding bishop out of office and selected a new leader to take the helm.


The contest between former presiding Bishop Chandler D. Owens of Atlanta and Patterson ended in a win for Patterson, 2,619-1,786. Unlike the presidential brawl between Vice President Al Gore and Texas Gov. George W. Bush, the COGIC election ended peacefully and uncontested.


“I will work with the new leader,” Owens said during his concession speech after the election in November. Owens, who pastors Greater Community COGIC in Marietta, Georgia, was re-elected to the denomination’s 12-member general board.


It seems only natural that today Patterson would rise to the position of the highest-ranking official in his denomination–after all of the childhood grooming he received in the church decades ago.


Born in 1939 in Humboldt, Tennessee, to William Archie and Mary Louise Patterson, G.E. Patterson and his other siblings grew up in a Pentecostal home. The family moved to Memphis, and it was there, at age 4, that Patterson started preaching soul-stirring messages to “congregations” of two or three children.


Though she chuckles when she mentions her brother’s preaching debut, Patterson’s older sister, Lee Ella Smith, says he was serious about God even as a child.


“My brother would stand on orange crates and soap boxes and just preach the gospel,” says Smith, who oversees thousands of COGIC women as a denominational state supervisor in Tennessee.


The Pattersons moved to Detroit in 1952, and four years later–on Sunday, Sept. 16, 1956, between 10:30 p.m. and 11 received the baptism in the Holy Spirit. It was a life-changing event during his teen years, and it seemed to set the stage for the passionate preaching currently seen by millions of viewers of his TV programs.


That fervent preaching is what caused about 15,000 people, mainly women, who attended COGIC’s 51st International Women’s Convention in May to go ballistic as the bishop delivered a power-packed message, titled “Togetherness.” With uplifted hands, worshipers praised God while waving their Bibles and shouting, “Preach, Bishop!”


“We won’t let women come to the pulpit to speak, but we’ll let a drunk politician come to the podium, smelling like last night’s liquor,” Patterson told attendees as thunderous applause ricocheted from one side of the Birmingham Jefferson Convention Complex to the other.


A holy hush covered the convention center as the presiding bishop went on to explain his view on women in ministry.


“I used to be like many of the brothers: down on the women,” he told delegates. “But the Lord showed me that COGIC was started in a prayer meeting that was
held in a woman’s house.” Women are “the envy of the religious world,”
he added.


“We are grateful to have a leader who appreciates the work that the women in this denomination offer to ministries all across the country,” says Mother Willie Mae Rivers, COGIC’s general supervisor of women, who oversees several million women. COGIC women are known for pioneering churches in the most impoverished neighborhoods in the country, and they are recognized for their work in remote areas of Third World countries.


Still, some of them are expecting changes under the new bishop’s leadership that will give them a stronger voice during the election process. Out of 5,495 registered delegates at the 2000 convention, 900 were female voters according to the denomination’s Whole Truth magazine. Some believe that number needs to increase.


“With all the women in the Church of God in Christ, there should be more of us voting, ” said one woman who did not wish to be identified.


Patterson says he will work toward giving every card-carrying member in COGIC the right to cast a vote.


“We’re working on a system that will give each person who is in good standing with the church an opportunity to vote by means of modern technology,” he told Charisma. A technological system is needed because, so far, the denomination has no venue large enough to hold all qualified voters at one time.


The election is held a week after the U.S. presidential election every four years.


With all of the hoopla surrounding the Gore-Bush presidential race, the right to vote seems extremely crucial, not only in the church but also in American politics. Maybe that’s why President George W. Bush invited a string of key black religious leaders, including Bishop Patterson, to Washington in late March.


More than a dozen African American leaders convened at the White House and gave their support to the president’s plan to give federal dollars to faith-based programs. Patterson told the New York Times that he did not vote for President Bush, but said that if the president’s plan works as intended “there would be no reason for black people not to vote for him four years from now.”


Knowing that leaders such as Patterson have the oversight of millions of Christian voters, political analysts say the president is trying to heal wounds left from last year’s bitter presidential election.


Tried by Fire


Whether he’s preaching to massive crowds of African Americans or to white Christians or even laying hands on an alcoholic who stumbles into his church, Patterson’s appeal crosses just about every barrier imaginable.


“If anybody can bring racial healing to the body of Christ, Bishop Patterson can,” Synan says of the bishop’s enormous influence.


That’s because Patterson doesn’t preach as if the “black” church and “white” church are separated. He promotes unity in the body of Christ among all groups and says Christians should map out ways to bring white, black, Hispanic and other groups together under one roof.


In fact, his involvement in the civil rights movement in the late 1960s is what has fueled his message of unity. He was involved in the strike of 1968 that centered on black sanitation workers in Memphis and was a member of the nine-person strategy committee that brought Martin Luther King Jr. to Memphis. After King was gunned down while standing on the balcony of the Lorraine Motel, many grief-stricken people from all over the city joined Patterson’s church.


The bishop remembers briefly talking with King on two occasions and says his denomination has played a key part in major historical events. Many of COGIC’s leaders marched hand-in-hand with other black and white Christians who wanted equality for blacks. And it was at COGIC’s Mason Temple that King delivered his famous final speech, “I’ve Been to the Mountaintop.”


“There was a severe thunderstorm that night,” says Patterson, rehashing the events of King’s final visit to Memphis. “After Dr. King finished his speech, you could hear sobbing and weeping in the rafters, and everybody knew that was it. That was a prophetic moment.”


But other difficulties in ministry, such as weathering church splits, seemed to be the training ground for the bishop’s date with destiny. In fact, some of his most grueling tests and hardships in life have come through the church.


Although the church Patterson co-pastored under his father, Holy Temple COGIC, grew during many of the city’s hardships, it went through a painful church split. In 1969, a young Patterson found himself in a heated battle with his father’s brother, J.O. Patterson Sr., who was the presiding bishop.


Local pastors had voted Patterson’s father to fill the void left by the death of Memphis Bishop A.B. McEwen. But J.O. Patterson Sr. disagreed with the vote and placed himself in the position.


“I thought my father should have been the bishop of West Tennessee,” Patterson says, as he reminisces about his early struggles. “My uncle thought that just like the pope is over the Vatican in Rome, the presiding bishop should oversee churches in Memphis, the headquarters for the denomination.”


As the family feud escalated, Patterson realized he would have to leave the denomination or stand by as the presiding bishop and other high-ranking officials removed him and his father from the pastorate of the church. “I didn’t understand it then, but in hindsight it was nothing more than God preparing me,” Patterson says.


Destined for Leadership


In 1975, Patterson left COGIC and organized a string of independent churches called Bountiful Blessings. The same year, he opened the doors to Temple of Deliverance Cathedral of Bountiful Blessings with 436 members.


His departure from COGIC, however, unleashed a wave of criticism against him. For 13 years he was shunned by other COGIC leaders and constantly referred to as a “defector.”


In the meantime he managed to build a flourishing congregation, a radio ministry and TV ministries, as well as hold crusades and tent meetings across the country. After recalling the events that led to his departure from the denomination he had grown to love, Patterson admits his experience was God’s way of training him for leadership in the future.


“In reading the Scriptures, you’ll find that when God used someone to lead a particular group, He had a time when he pulled the person away from the people they were to lead,” he says.


In time, the Pattersons healed their old wounds, and in 1988 G.E. returned to COGIC. The lessons he learned during the turmoil in ministry proved beneficial during his first few months in office. In January, he intervened in an ongoing bitter court battle between former presiding Bishop Owens, Bishop H. Jenkins Bell and Orlando, Florida, pastor Derrick W. Hutchins, chairman of the national pastors’ and elders’ council.


The case ended up in court when Owens, along with Bishop H. Jenkins Bell, had Hutchins removed from the pastorate of Orlando Institutional COGIC. Owens told an Orange County, Florida, judge that the presiding bishop had rights similar to the pope and that he could remove a pastor without charges.


Hutchins says he was removed because he didn’t support Owens for the office of presiding bishop. In an effort to keep the denomination out of court and give Orlando congregants a place to worship, Patterson brought an end to the highly publicized ordeal.


In March, Bishop Patterson settled the matter out of court. Hutchins and his congregation received $170,000 toward the purchase of a 1,500-seat church.


Bringing healing to people regardless of their circumstances seems to be the call of a man who, as a child, knew he was destined to preach the gospel. Maybe that’s why he was elected presiding bishop of the COGIC denomination.


And maybe that’s why many years after Cheatham had tried to take the bishop’s life with 14 separate bullets, Patterson was able to embrace the gunman when he asked for prayer. No doubt Bishop Patterson prayed the prayer heard by millions of viewers who watch him weekly: “Be healed, be delivered, and be set free!” *


Temple of Deliverance recently opened its new 5,000-seat facility in downtown Memphis (left). Patterson’s sermons are aired weekly on Black Entertainment Television.


UP CLOSE WITH TODAY’S LEADERS


Following God’s Agenda


During an interview with Charisma, Bishop Gilbert Patterson of COGIC shared his views on world evangelism, racial unity and more.


During the months leading up to his election, Gilbert Patterson addressed everything from finance reform in the Church of God in Christ (COGIC) to the future of the youth culture, vowing to make changes to a variety of areas in his denomination if his candidacy for COGIC’s top spot were successful.


Today, as presiding bishop-elect of COGIC, Patterson is making good on his promises, saying that integrity, especially in ministry, builds trust among leaders and the people they serve. Charisma spoke with Patterson about the worldwide impact of COGIC, the denomination’s direction in the 21st century and his burden to see racial unity among believers.


Charisma As the largest denomination in the United States, the Church of God in Christ has the potential to leave a profound mark on the world. How will the church accomplish this?


Patterson: We have already begun a massive witnessing program. Our soul-winning ministry goes all over the country holding outreaches in the inner city, knocking on America’s doors to tell people about Christ. Our program is strategic. We’ve also arranged a nationwide intercessory prayer ministry that provides prayer coverage for people.


For decades, we have sent missionaries to 58 foreign countries including Third World nations. We do this to minister to people and to maintain our visibility in remote areas. We have pastors and missionaries in Japan, the Philippines, England and in other places in the world.


Charisma What direction is the church headed in the new millennium?


Patterson: To know what is happening in the body of Christ, you have to also have a working knowledge of biblical history. The church basically follows the same trail Israel and Judah followed.


There were spiritual conditions that led to the northern and southern kingdoms splitting. Second Chronicles 15:3 reveals how Israel had been without the true God, without a teaching priest and without the law. Any time the upper echelon of the church does not teach the Word and obey it you are in dangerous territory.


The Church of God in Christ is no longer a babe. We’re more than 100 years old, and we must focus on what the Scripture calls “strong meat.”


We were jumping and shouting, but from an official position, we were in an era where there was no teaching. I’m not talking about our local churches. It was the national church. But we’re now focusing on a steady diet of the Word.


Charisma How will you keep constituents informed of progress in the denomination?


Patterson: On July 1 we launched our national TV ministry. Our coverage extends across the United States on several television networks. Not only does this increase COGIC’s visibility, it will expose millions of viewers to the great preachers and teachers in our church.


We also have some programming that will serve as a forum to discuss issues that are pertinent to COGIC and the world. We also have a strong presence on the World Wide Web and radio.


Charisma What are your thoughts on the black church?


Patterson: We must move away from this black church-white church thinking. We’ve just got to be the church.


The Church of God in Christ did not start as a black church. Historians will tell you, especially Vinson Synan, who has written about the Pentecostal movement in America, that COGIC was about 50 percent white and 50 percent black between 1907 and 1914.


People are marrying across racial lines, and the church has to be able to minister universally. The gospel is the same gospel for whites, blacks, Hispanics, the French, Germans and just whosoever.


Somebody might ask how should we bring about the meshing of the races? By preaching a pure gospel, because people are repelled when they hear slants and ethnic slurs. We must be prepared with a universal gospel for the whole world.


Charisma Is the presiding bishop accountable to anyone?


Patterson: Most definitely. The presiding bishop and the 12-member general [governing] board are accountable to the general assembly–the law-making body of our church.


It’s not like the pope, who is at the top, and under him are cardinals, bishops, priests and people. In COGIC, the general assembly–thousands of pastors, elders, women leaders and lay members–is at the top and the general board is under the assembly.


This means I am accountable to the assembly, and every time it convenes I must give an account of my stewardship in the Church of God in Christ. *


The Bishop’s Wife


Louise Patterson uses her influence as a leader to point multitudes toward Jesus.


At first glance, she looks like a Spirit-filled fashion model. She’s tall and attractive. She has the accent of a Southern belle and the aura of Miss America, but a closer look at Louise Patterson, wife of presiding Bishop Gilbert Patterson, reveals a woman who is used to serving in the trenches of ministry.


Patterson oversees thousands of women in her church and says that as a pastor’s wife she ministers to people who are challenged with problems only God can solve. “We’re living in a day when men and women are constantly bombarded with situations, and as a leader in my church, I have a responsibility to point them to the Lord.”


It was under Bishop Patterson’s ministry that she was introduced to the Spirit-filled life. A member of a Methodist church, she decided to attend a revival service conducted by a young evangelist by the name of Gilbert Patterson.


“I was seeking the Lord for the baptism in the Holy Spirit that night, and it wasn’t long before I began to speak in tongues,” she remembers.


In 1967, the Pattersons married in Memphis. And though the couple never had children, during their first year of marriage they began helping young people with college expenses.


“We decided early on to invest in the lives of other people’s children, and as a result, we now have thousands of spiritual sons and daughters,” she says.


Also a COGIC missionary, Patterson says being in the “sanctified, holiness church” is probably as close as a person will ever come to living the kind of life depicted in the Bible. Maybe that’s why she refused to accept her doctor’s diagnosis of chronic rheumatoid arthritis 13 years ago. When her physician said she would eventually be confined to a wheelchair for the rest of her life, she sought God in prayer.


“My husband teaches faith and healing, and so I did what I’ve been taught to do–I asked God to heal me, and He did,” she says.


During COGIC’s international women’s convention, Patterson gave a stirring testimony that left thousands of people rejoicing. “It’s like being on the telephone with a friend and they put you on hold,” she told the crowd. “But when God puts you on hold, don’t hang up because He will answer.”


Patterson told Charisma she is totally yielded to God’s will, which for her includes being the “first lady” of her church and her denomination. Like many other pastors’ wives, she doesn’t prefer the title of “first lady” and that after being a pastor’s wife for 34 years, there were times when she didn’t feel like she was first. However, growing up in a large family–as the eighth of 12 children–prepared her for ministry, she adds.


Says Patterson, “I love God, and I’m totally yielded to His will for my life, and I know that part of His will for my life is to be the bishop’s wife.” *


Leading the Way for Women


COGIC evangelist DeOla Wells Johnson symbolizes change for the nation’s largest Pentecostal denomination.


When viewers across the country tune in to the Bountiful Blessings TV program, they watch as Bishop Gilbert Patterson delivers a sermon with an evangelistic style characteristic of a masterful orator.


But as cameras pan the cavernous sanctuary, they zoom onto another evangelist–a woman. She’s a fiery, third-generation Pentecostal named DeOla Wells Johnson, whose messages from the pulpit at Temple of Deliverance COGIC speak volumes to other women.


“She has profound depth in the Word of God,” says Mother Barbara McCoo Lewis, a COGIC women’s leader in Los Angeles. “The anointing on her life is so refreshing.”


That’s because Johnson has spent years studying the Scriptures. Her time with the Lord, she says, kept her dependent on God as a single mother of three children.


Under the tutelage of her father, the late Bishop Wyoming Wells, Johnson inherited a passion to help people. “I enjoy motivating women, particularly single women because I’ve been single since 1975,” Johnson told Charisma.


As one of two assistants to Bishop Patterson, Johnson has a slew of sponsibilities in her full-time position on staff at the Memphis church. She oversees noonday prayer meetings and is responsible for teaching midweek Bible studies at the 14,000-member congregation.


Johnson’s role at the church is highly visible, but she says she has never been controversial in regards to the women in ministry debate. She says she simply read the Word of God and obeyed it.


Notes the veteran evangelist: “Women don’t have to struggle or fret to get to where they’re going in ministry because their gift will make room for them and take them before great men–like Bishop Patterson.”


Patterson says that most COGIC women don’t want the rules about women’s ordination to change. “If you take a poll of women in ministry in the Church of God in Christ, it would reveal they don’t want to be ordained and don’t want to pastor, and they certainly don’t want to think in terms of being bishops,” he said.


After spending years of speaking at conferences, 68-year-old Johnson is grateful to minister to people one-on-one at Temple of Deliverance COGIC.


She offers advice to women who serve in their local churches and to those in full-time ministry: “Stay focused, disciplined and rely on God. Don’t rely on your self-will to do ministry.” *


Valerie G. Lowe is an associate editor with Charisma and Ministries Today magazines. She lives in Central Florida.




Pentecostal Leaders Convene Near Azusa Site

A triennial conference focused attention on the growth of the Pentecostal movement since 1906



Challenging churches to uphold their passion for Pentecost in the new millennium, Pentecostal leaders in May urged the body of Christ to maintain its spiritual strength as it positions itself for worldwide evangelism.


Nearly 2,200 delegates from 42 countries gathered in the birthplace of modern-day Pentecost for the 19th Pentecostal World Conference (PWC) held in Los Angeles. Memories of the revival that shook a small, two-story building on Azusa Street in the city 105 years ago prompted attendees to renew their passion and power for Christ.


“We don’t need another conference. What we need is another confrontation with the Holy Ghost,” Chairman Thomas E. Trask told delegates during the opening service held at Crenshaw Christian Center.


Crossing racial, gender and denominational barriers, conferencegoers representing the Church of God (Cleveland, Tenn.), Church of God in Christ, Assemblies of God, Church of the Foursquare Gospel, the International Pentecostal Holiness Church and a host of independent churches attended the three-day event.


David Yonggi Cho, pastor of the world’s largest church–the 730,000-member Yoido Full Gospel Church in Seoul, South Korea–urged American churches to release women in ministry.


“God is using women for the growth of the church,” Cho said. He credits women with much of the success his church has experienced.


Challenging attendees to greater levels of commitment in ministry and community involvement, speakers focused on world evangelism and missions while emphasizing the need for prayer, worship and racial reconciliation. Bishop Barbara Amos, founding pastor of Faith Deliverance Christian Center in Norfolk, Va., urged listeners to avoid discriminating against women in ministry.


“I’ve faced racism, gender bias and generational bias, and I don’t want other women to endure what I’ve gone through,” she said.


Attendees also were reminded of the racial divide that caused Christians to separate in the early 1900s. When William J. Seymour, an African American Pentecostal pioneer introduced his followers to speaking in tongues as evidence of the Spirit-filled experience, believers quickly embraced his message. His teachings, which spread across the country, attracted attention and some negative press.


The Los Angeles Times reported on the early days of the Azusa Street Revival with harsh criticism, calling the revival a “new sect of fanatics breaking loose.” The paper reversed its stance nearly a century later and now credits Pentecostals “with reshaping global Christianity.”


Research by the University of Southern California found that 9 percent of rapidly growing churches with social ministries were Pentecostal–countering the stereotypical view that Pentecostals focus on heaven while
liberal Christians provide social aid.


“We care about getting men saved and ready for heaven–but weren’t sure what to do with them on earth,” said Foursquare Church spokesman Ron Williams. “Now we’re helping them with both their spiritual needs and their physical needs.”


Although Seymour later was rejected by white Christians because of racism, today many Los Angeles megachurches have African American pastors, such as Bishop Charles Blake of the 18,000-member West Angeles Cathedral, Fred Price of the 10,000-seat Crenshaw Christian Center and Bishop Kenneth Ulmer, whose 11,000-member church recently purchased the Forum, former home of the Los Angeles Lakers.


PWC is a fellowship of Pentecostal believers from around the globe who meet triennially to map out strategies to win the masses to Christ. Trask, who is general superintendent of the Assemblies of God, was re-elected to a second term as chairman of the PWC.


The previous conference was held in Seoul, South Korea in 1998 at Cho’s church. Future PWC conferences are scheduled in South Africa (2004); Indonesia (2007); and Australia (2010).




PLUS: Making Church a Safe Place



Former homosexual Darryl Foster started a church in Atlanta that models loving ministry to those seeking freedom from homosexuality.


After suffering cruel molestation by a male teen in his church in the 1970s, followed by a violent rape at age 19 by a 200-pound homosexual man in 1981, Darryl Foster dove into homosexuality with a vengeance. But these horrific experiences were not the most difficult ordeals this young man would face. Some of the worst treatment he would endure would come from the church.


Foster knows all too well what it feels like to be called “faggot,” “sissy” or “punk” by Christians who blamed him for being sexually assaulted as a boy. He says the treatment he received from believers resulted in his rejecting the biblical teaching instilled in him by fellow congregants at the Pentecostal church he attended in Marlin, Texas, and his eventual plunge into homosexuality, which continued for 11 years.


But with every empty relationship, the God-shaped void in his heart grew larger, says Foster, who founded Witness Freedom Ministries in 1996 for people coming out of homosexuality. After years of loneliness and thoughts of suicide, Foster says he repented of his sins and received Christ back into his life.


But surprisingly, the church still rejected him. That is one of the reasons Foster and his wife, Dee, started Restoration Church Atlanta (RCA).


“The black church should respond to the homosexual struggler like it would to any other person seeking God,” says Foster, who recently shared his testimony during a singles event at T.D. Jakes’ Potter’s House Church in Dallas.


The 39-year-old pastor says he won’t skirt the issue in his church. He insists the underlying question for the African American church is: Does the black church treat every sinner the same? In his opinion, the answer is an emphatic “no.”


“When the church begins to pick and choose who is worthy to receive its compassion, understanding and acceptance, then we have corrupted the basic principles of the faith delivered to the body of Christ,” he explains.


Although RCA is not specifically geared toward people trapped in homosexuality, the ministry does strive to help those who come seeking a relationship with Christ through strong biblical teaching and godly accountability.


“We have to be very discerning,” says Dee Foster. “Not everyone wants to be delivered.”


Foster, the father of four children–Brittanie, 13; Philip, 7; Charles, 6; and Trinity, 2–also provides training to churches that desire to evangelize and disciple the gay community.


Whether he is challenging politically correct talk-show hosts or ministering to people on his Web site, Foster makes it clear that homosexuality is wrong and that gays need to submit to God’s standard of righteousness and not fall prey to “erroneous theological teaching” promoted by the so-called “gay Christian” movement.


“If we hold true to the biblical standard that homosexuality is sin, and if one practices but does not repent and forsake the lifestyle, it goes without question that you cannot be gay and a Christian,” he told Charisma.


While Dee ministers to wives of ex-gay men, providing sound teaching and support, Darryl spends much of his time educating the body of Christ on how to provide ministry to gays and lesbians. He insists that if believers would become less judgmental and more understanding, the Holy Spirit would help Christians lead gay men and women out of homosexuality’s trap and into the light of a loving Savior.


“I know for a fact that homosexuals can be delivered through the power of the Holy Spirit because God did it for me,” he says.




Sparks Fly After Opening of Holy Land Theme Park

Organizers have run afoul of Jews and charismatics since they opened the attraction in Orlando



Zion’s Hope, a nondenominational organization headed by converted Jew, Marvin Rosenthal, opened the doors to its Holy Land Experience theme park in Orlando, Fla., in early February amid a wave of controversy.


The $16 million replica of ancient Jerusalem captivates park-goers with a huge facade of the Herodian Temple, hand-carved Qumran caves where the Dead Sea scrolls were found and re-enactments of the Messiah. Now a Baptist preacher, Rosenthal says he created the Holy Land Experience as a “living biblical museum” and as a constant reminder of the life and times of Jesus Christ.


Several Jewish leaders, however, protested the opening of central Florida’s newest attraction,
condemning what they believe is an outright deception of the park’s true intention–which they say is to trick Jews to come into see Old Testament historical exhibits. Once inside, they’re trapped by overt gospel presentations aimed to convince Jews of Jesus’ divinity.


“If [Zion’s Hope] is an organization dedicated to celebrating their tradition, then I think [the Holy Land Experience] is a wonderful thing,” said Rabbi Dan Wolpe of the Temple Ohalei Rivka. “If it’s dedicated to proselytizing those who don’t accept their tradition, then I think it’s a terrible thing.”


On opening day, a few protestors stood outside the attraction with bull horns and posters. They shouted, “Stop the destruction of the Jewish people!” and sometimes referred to park owners as “Nazis.”


Rosenthal says his message has never been misleading, and he maintains that the accusations represent an attack on religious freedom. “In all our literature, we made it crystal clear that we point to Jesus Christ as the Son of God and Savior of the world,” he said.


One month later, Rosenthal made headlines again when he revealed that he endorsed anti-charismatic hiring practices. According to the Orlando Sentinel, Rosenthal said charismatics need not apply for any positions at the attraction, not even for jobs as hot dog vendors at the park’s Oasis Cafe.


“We are not charismatics,” he told the newspaper. “We love them. We appreciate them. But we would not offer them a job.”


Applicants must sign a doctrinal statement that excludes Pentecostals and charismatics. And one local Pentecostal pastor complained that members of his church who applied for jobs at the park were told they could not work there because of their doctrinal beliefs.


However, Holy Land Experience spokesman Gregg Halteman told Charisma that charismatic or Pentecostal employees who work at the attraction “will not be fired for their beliefs.”


National media attention has boosted the park’s already record-breaking attendance. For $17 a ticket, park-goers can travel 3,000 years back in time, where they can see a six-story replica of Herod’s Temple–half as big as the original–but spectacular in architectural design.


Visitors also can stroll through a scaled-down version of the Via Dolorosa or reflect on the resurrection of Jesus at a replica of the Garden Tomb.


The bustling Jerusalem Street Marketplace houses quaint gift shops where shoppers purchase clothing, books and souvenirs as first-century soldiers scurry by.


Orlando resident Jean Fleming, who is not Jewish, says the Holy Land Experience was both entertaining and informative for her. “I felt like I was in ancient Jerusalem in Jesus’ day,” she said.


Holy Land Experience executives are preparing for the opening of more venues on the 14-acre site, which is only minutes away from Orlando’s major tourist corridor. Already, thousands of Christian groups are flocking to the park, and its organizers believe it will be another regular stop for Orlando tourists visiting Disney World, Universal Studios and Sea World.


“Enthralled by the fascinating exhibits, we believe our guests will find their comprehension of the Bible becoming deeper and more meaningful,” Rosenthal said.




A Cancer in the Land

 

Several months ago I was on my way to the hospital to visit my brother Ronald who had been diagnosed with throat cancer. Already saddened by the news of Ron’s condition, I was stunned by the behavior of the driver behind me as I waited at an intersection.

“Go, you dumb nigger! Go!” he yelled. The man was apparently outraged at the thought of missing the light, so he blurted racial slurs at me and my daughter, Faith, who was riding with me. “Are you stupid, you dumb nigger? I said go!” he shouted from his window.

I made a quick left turn and headed for the hospital. As I told God how this man’s actions hurt me, I realized that racism in our country is just like the cancer that has invaded my brother’s body.

One of the definitions the dictionary gives for the word cancer is interesting: “something evil or malignant that spreads destructively.” Like a tiny seed nurtured by ignorance, fear and hatred, racism penetrates our hearts and minds to breed in an already sinful nature. It hibernates in the most unlikely places, such as in our children. If we are not careful, our kids will inherit a grown-up’s disease.

But the Word of God is clear: There should be no segregation. “There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither slave nor free, there is neither male nor female; for you are all one in Christ Jesus” (Gal. 3:28, NKJV).

The first line of defense in fighting cancer is a strong immune system–which does an amazing job of combating cancer-causing agents introduced to the body through food and the environment. Charisma columnist Dr. Don Colbert says we strengthen the immune system by eating the right foods. “What you eat makes all the difference!” he insists.

What a parallel. The strongest line of defense against racism in America is the church. Like the human immune system, the church has the strength to ward off cancer-causing agents such as discrimination and prejudice. Sadly, though, the body of Christ is often unaware of racism’s power, or it simply refuses to battle the problem. So this spiritual carcinoma is getting bigger, and it boldly manifests itself during what has been dubbed the most segregated hour in America: Sunday at 11 a.m.

After my brother, 39, nearly choked while eating a hot dog, he rushed to the emergency room to be examined. When the doctors diagnosed him with cancer, the first thing they did was develop a plan of action. They explained to Ron that the tumor was stubborn and that treatment would be aggressive–bolts of radiation and several months of draining chemotherapy. The first thing my brother did was repent and ask God to heal him.

Repenting for racism in America– including in the church–will lead to great healing for our country and revival in the land. But this move of the Spirit won’t look like the nearly all-white revivals of Brownsville and the Smithton Outpouring; neither will it favor the nearly all-black Woman Thou Art Loosed movement currently sweeping the nation.

Instead, it will resemble the day of Pentecost, when the crowd that gathered heard the gospel in their own languages (see Acts 2:1-12). The gospel wasn’t presented in the language of one particular culture; it supernaturally transcended culture and ministered to one race–the human race.

We must take drastic measures through prayer, declaring the Word and allowing the Spirit of God to convict our hearts to act. It’s not enough to swap choirs and have nice fellowship meetings. Healing the racial divide requires a change in lifestyle.

Today, my brother’s health has improved dramatically. He withstood the physical pain and the emotional heartache associated with cancer. His diet consists of fruits, vegetables and the Word of God, from which he draws strength daily.

Addressing racism in society may be painful for some because it is so deeply rooted in our culture. But God is calling the church to be the forerunner in this endeavor.

Please don’t allow the smile on my face to fool you. When that driver called me the N word, that hurt. But regardless of the pain the scourge of racism has caused in our land, God wants to use you, me and others to stop its spread and bring healing to America.




COGIC Elects New Bishop

G.E. Patterson ousted C.D. Owens in historic election


Never before in the 103-year history of the Church of God in Christ (COGIC), headquartered in

Memphis, Tenn., has a presiding bishop been unseated. But in mid-November delegates to COGIC’s general assembly opted for change and voted the incumbent, Bishop Chandler D. Owens, out of office.


Bishop Gilbert E. Patterson, 61, pastor of Temple of Deliverance COGIC in Memphis, defeated Owens 2,619 to 1,786. Owens, who is from Atlanta, was re-elected to the 12-member general board.


“The first thing I will do is bring the general [governing] board back into its rightful position,” presiding bishop Patterson told Charisma, alluding to the diminished role the board played during Owens’ tenure. He says he has plans to “expose the world to the great preachers, both male and female, in the Church of God in Christ” through an international TV and radio ministry that will serve as a vehicle to keep COGIC’s 5.5 million-member constituency informed.


Five men have previously held the top spot in the Pentecostal denomination, including founder C.H. Mason, O.T. Jones, James O. Patterson, Louis Ford and Chandler Owens.