Be a Do Dad: Spend Time With the Children

The below suggestions come from the book Educating The Whole Hearted Child by Clay and Sally Clarkson, and we think their right on!

All Pro Dads, you know your wife is happy when you…

  • Initiate and lead regular planning times with your wife, without the children (and you plan the baby-sitter!).
  • Take the kids regularly for several hours on planned, meaningful outings…i.e., take them away (see below). Taking them to the Chick-fil-A Playground while you have coffee and read the paper does not qualify as an outing. Your wife wants to know that the time will be more than just babysitting.
  • Assist with the “Uppers” whenever possible, and be sensitive to the “Downers.”
  • Defend and protect your wife’s time boxes against time consumers (people, distractions, children, calls, etc.).
  •  Plan in time boxes to be with your children during the day and the week, especially when it gives your wife free time, or when it makes her tasks easier (such as while she is preparing dinner).
  • Budget in your heart and mind (and checkbook) for paid household help, if you are able, especially when your children are young. Any help goes a long way.
  • prepare an arsenal of ideas that you can do with the children on a moment’s notice (see below).
  • are sensitive to the end of the day stress level, planning ahead to take control of the kids at the end of the day even when you are tired.

Do-Dads:

Activities Dad can do with the kids to give Mom time alone.

Big Times (outings)

  • Take them to the park.
  • Take them to a nature center.
  • Take them to a lake or beach area.
  • Take them to a museum.
  • Ride bikes in the country with them.
  • Take them on a mini field trip.
  • Go on a hike with them.
  • Go swimming with them.
  • Take them to the library reading time.
  • Play tennis with them.
  • Take them to special events.
  • Take them to seasonal festivals.

Little Times (innings)

  • Read books to them.
  • Play a game with them.
  • Throw a ball or shoot baskets with them.
  • Take a walk around the block with them.
  • Teach them something.
  • Clean up the yard together.
  • Make a tent with them.
  • Build something with them.
  • Give them “driving” lessons.
  • Play table tennis with them.
  • Overhaul bicycles (clean, tighten, etc.) together.

Dad-Dates:

Every child needs individual time with Dad. Plan regular times to take each child on a “date” to be together and talk about life.

  • Go out for breakfast, child’s choice of restaurant, even if it’s the donut shop. Go as early as possible to make it more special.
  • Go to a favorite park, playground, or outdoor area. Take a picnic meal or snack. Play and talk.
  • With sons, plan an overnight campout. With daughters, plan a dress up night out for dinner.
  • Take them for a special shopping trip.

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Terror Attacks Against Israel Increased, Death Toll Decreased in 2012

Israel’s domestic spy agency, the Israel Security Agency (Shin Bet), says it thwarted 100 “serious” terror attacks in 2012, of which a third were planned kidnappings, the agency revealed in a report published Thursday. The Shin Bet said it arrested 2,300 terror suspects, which led to 2,170 indictments.

Half of the planned kidnapping attacks were planned roadside bombs followed by small-arms fire. Four planned suicide bombings were thwarted, as well as five infiltrations from the Sinai. Twenty kilograms of high-grade explosives and triggering mechanisms were caught—all smuggled through the border with Lebanon by Hezbollah. Command and control centers operated by Hamas in Ramallah and Hebron were uncovered. Hamas used the centers to rehabilitate its military infrastructure in the West Bank to carry out attacks, with an emphasis on kidnappings.

Some 10 million shekels to be used for terror financing were intercepted.

For the first time in four decades, no Israelis were killed in terrorist attacks in Judea and Samaria in 2012.

Despite the lack of deaths, there was an increase in the number of attacks in Judea and Samaria, from 320 in 2011 to 578 in 2012. The number of Molotov cocktail attacks in Judea and Samaria in 2012 rose 68 percent, compared to the previous year.

There were also no terror-related deaths in Jerusalem in 2012, but the number of attacks there also increased, from 191 in 2011 to 282 in 2012. The number of Molotov cocktail attacks in Jerusalem rose 31.5% in 2012, compared to the previous year.

Overall, 10 Israelis were killed in terrorist attacks in 2012, compared to 22 the previous year. Six of the deaths in 2012 were caused by rocket and mortar fire from the Gaza Strip.

Despite the decrease in terror-related deaths, the number of people wounded in terrorist attacks in Israel increased from 159 in 2011 to 309 in 2012. A vast majority (87 percent) of the latter injuries occurred during Operation Pillar of Defense in November. Some 232 people were wounded by rocket fire during Israel’s eight-day offensive against terrorist groups in Gaza. Another 29 were wounded in the bombing of a Tel Aviv bus on the last day of the operation.

There was a dramatic increase in rocket fire from Gaza in 2012, with 2,327 rockets launched into Israel, compared to 419 in 2011.

The number of terror attacks against Israel originating in the Sinai Peninsula went up in 2012, as did the number of attempts by Hezbollah and Iran to strike Israeli targets overseas.

There was a prominent trend in 2012 of overseas attacks against targets with low security protection, such as local employees of Israeli diplomatic missions, members of the Jewish community and Israeli tourists. In July, five Israelis were killed in a bomb attack on their bus at the Burgas Airport in Bulgaria.

In February, the wife of an Israeli Defense Ministry official was wounded when a bomb was attached to her vehicle in the Indian capital of New Delhi. On that same day, a bomb was discovered on the vehicle of a local employee of the Israeli Embassy in Tblisi, Georgia. Hezbollah and Iranian Revolutionary Guard operatives were also arrested in Thailand, Cyprus and Kenya in the midst of preparations for attacks against Israeli targets.

The number of attacks committed by far-right Jewish extremists against Palestinians fell by 40 percent in 2012 (18 in 2012, compared to 30 in 2011). There were three attacks by Jewish extremists against holy sites in 2012, a drop from seven in 2011. The number of cars set on fire by Jewish extremists also fell, from 21 in 2011 to 13 in 2012.

Jewish extremists were most active in the Binyamin area of Judea and Samaria, the Shin Bet report said.

Despite the overall decrease in attacks by far-right Jewish extremists against Palestinians in 2012, there was a significant increase in the involvement of minors in such attacks, including in the firebombing in August of a Palestinian taxi near Bat Ayin, in which six Palestinians were injured.

During 2012, 43 indictments were filed against far-right Jewish extremists. Some 18 were placed under house arrest and 29 administrative restraining orders against far-rightists were issued by the Israel Defense Forces Central Command.

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Israeli Left Agrees: ‘Peace Not Possible’

Leftists know full well that true peace currently isn’t possible, and that’s not Netanyahu’s fault. Most left-wing leaders will acknowledge Israel has done what it can, and then some, to reach a peaceful conclusion to the conflict, but has only received more hostility and violence in return.

An example of this is popular new politician Yair Lapid, head of the Yesh Atid (There is a Future) faction. Lapid wrote on his Facebook page this week that “the Arabs don’t want peace,” something Netanyahu has been saying for some time. Lapid’s solution to the problem echoes that of former Prime Minister Ariel Sharon and is not far off the mark of what Netanyahu advocates.

For Lapid, the only thing to do at present is to “put a tall fence between us and the Arabs and to maintain a Jewish majority in the Land of Israel.” Lapid had previously stated he is against uprooting major Jewish settlements, and totally opposes the division of Jerusalem.

These are positions shared by the other top left-wing party leaders, which means that even if they had beaten Netanyahu in Tuesday’s elections, none of these leaders would have any more success in achieving a genuine and lasting peace agreement with the Palestinians. And Israelis know this.

That’s why, this time around, the peace process was the least important of the primary election issues for most Israelis. Instead, this election hung on the economy and overall security in the face of mounting threats from Iran, Syria, Hizbullah and Hamas.

With Yesh Atid’s significant election achievement, it is expected Netanyahu will invite its leader, Yair Lapid, to be a senior coalition partner. In a statement released shortly after exit polls were published, Netanyahu said that he had spoken to Lapid and told him that “we have an opportunity to do great things for Israel.”




Fighting a War in the Shadows

If one were to take stock of Israel Defense Forces Chief of the General Staff Lt. Gen. Benny Gantz, a number of qualities are evident.

On the one hand, there is his earnestness, his low-key manner, and his tendency to comb over every detail. On the other hand, there is his sober view of reality. He knows that we live in a world where shadow wars are the rule rather than the exception. It is a world where much is done yet little is known. As the top general in the military, Gantz is deserving of a fair share of credit for this body of work.

Unfortunately for him, he must accept the fact that the details will remain secret. In this era of instant gratification and media grandstanding, the IDF chief will have to reconcile with the fact that his most noteworthy achievements on all fronts will be known to a precious few individuals. According to foreign news reports, Israeli forces have attacked terror targets from Sudan to the Sinai Peninsula, from Judea and Samaria to Tehran.

In this dark, shadowy world, there is no chatter. Period. It matters little that the bulk of his work and the majority of his achievements are found there. It matters little that the successes scored here are extraordinary. Gantz can never claim the acknowledgment for these deeds.

Next month, Gantz will mark two years in the top job. Officially, he has one more year remaining on the job, as stipulated by recent legislation that limited a chief of staff’s term in office to three years. The option to extend his term to a fourth year is still available. It’s a good bet that he will indeed be given a fourth year, which thus gives us an opportunity to conduct a reckoning of his first two years at the helm.

On the positive side, Gantz could rightly boast of the quiet along the country’s borders. In addition to the security front, which has never been quieter, there is also domestic quiet, particularly within the IDF. After the Boaz Harpaz scandal and the destructive intrigues that pitted Ehud Barak against Gabi Ashkenazi, normalcy has once again returned to the Kirya military headquarters.

Officers and their subordinates are mainly preoccupied with work while indulging in less mudslinging (they are human, after all). The defense minister and his chief of staff are working in harmony, though they are by no means friends. On the other hand, they are certainly not enemies. This is how it should be. Gantz is cognizant of his subordinate status relative to the civilian leadership, though he is adamant in demanding that his bosses fulfill their end of the bargain. That means conducting work diligently, orderly, and matter-of-factly. During the meeting in which Ehud Barak offered him the job of chief of staff, Gantz told the defense minister, “The army doesn’t belong to me, but it doesn’t belong to you either.”

The calm is not just limited to relations at the top of the chain of command. The IDF is on a much cleaner, more salubrious path. Nobody could deny credit from Gantz’s predecessor, Gabi Ashkenazi, for his role in restoring professionalism to the manner in which the military is run. His tenure, however, will forever be remembered for the shadow cast by the Harpaz affair and the war of intrigues between the generals and their respective associates.

Gantz is having none of that. Sure, he gives preference to his favorite commanders. He is particularly close to Military Intelligence chief Maj. Gen. Aviv Kochavi and Israel Air Force commander Maj. Gen. Amir Eshel. He also shares close ties with his new deputy, Maj. Gen. Gadi Eizenkot; the IDF Colleges commander, Maj. Gen. Yossi Baidatz; and IDF Spokesperson Brig. Gen. Yoav Mordechai. Yet even those who are not amongst his inner circle would be hard-pressed to claim that Gantz plays favors or is unfair.

Perhaps the reason for this is that Gantz does not owe anything to anyone. He did the state a favor when he agreed to take the chief of staff position after the aborted nomination of Yoav Galant. As such, he is liberated from the burden of settling scores. Instead, he could focus on the task at hand.

In one of the summations drawn up following the internal probes into the prosecution of Operation Pillar of Defense, Gantz said: “If we could draw the appropriate conclusions without having the heavy cloud of an international or local commission of inquiry hovering over us, that’s good enough.” That may seem like an obvious statement, but the Second Lebanon War, which yielded the Winograd committee, and Operation Cast Lead, which brought us the Goldstone Report, left deep scars on the army. From this standpoint, an operation that ended without an investigative panel that called for heads to roll is good news for all.

One should not get the wrong impression, however. Despite the impressive calm that has blanketed the frontier with the Gaza Strip; and despite the significant deterrence that has been attained in Israel’s showdown with the terrorist organizations; and despite the Egyptian-American coalition that supposedly will put a stop to the weapons smuggling, Pillar of Defense was not a real test for the IDF.

From the opening salvo to the end of the operation, there was never any doubt as to who had the advantage. The combination of exhaustive preparations, precise intelligence, and shrewd command on both the civilian and military levels yielded a relatively successful operation, though not on par with a real confrontation that awaits us either in Lebanon or Iran.

Gantz played a significant, though not exclusive, role in the operation. If one had to choose a specific area in which he exerted the most influence, one could pinpoint the initial stages of the operation. The civilian leadership gave Gantz the green light to hit a list of targets that he saw fit, targets that he deemed were worthy of “removal” as part of the opening gambit. At the time, Hamas military commander Ahmed Jabari was still in hiding for fear that he would be liquidated, and a number of officers were urging the chief of staff to hit targets that were less attractive, but who were “available,” so to speak, to get the operation underway. Gantz refused. There are those who said at the time (and still say to this day) that this is proof of his hesitancy. The bottom line, however, is that his patience paid off. Jabari made the mistake of emerging from hiding. He was spotted, and then eliminated.

Gantz matured into the job. He is still not enamored with the use of force, and he still prefers to avoid it as long as there are other alternatives available (particularly when it comes to Iran). When he needs to, however, he tries not to be “vegetarian” about the use of force. One could debate about the extent to which he discovered his carnivorous appetite in Gaza and how wise his decision was to pointlessly call up tens of thousands of army reservists. The bottom line, though, is that it is hard to disagree with the quiet in the southern part of Israel now. It was attained at a reasonable price, without entering into a military and international quagmire.

The chief of staff’s real test—and, by extension, that of the organization that he commands—is the campaign that is being waged daily. It is a dark, secretive war that is meant to prevent, and at the same time prepare for, a large-scale, overt conflagration. At any moment, the Syrian front could suddenly ignite as a consequence of the downfall of Bashar Assad. The Lebanese theatre could flare up due to the transfer of advanced weaponry from Syria. The IDF is obligated to undertake painstaking preparations which necessitate nonstop monitoring, surveillance, and the exploration of new frontiers. That means stationing command posts deep in enemy territory as well as upgrading cyberwarfare defenses, an area that has been given preferential status in terms of budget and manpower under Gantz’s stewardship.

On Syria, the army has prepared a number of responses for any contingency, but there are still fundamental disputes with far-reaching consequences. These disagreements will have to be solved in real time if and when they come up. One of them is over the question of whether an aerial strike without a ground operation (much like Pillar of Defense) will suffice. Will it be possible to carry out a brief operation without wandering into difficult entanglements (unlike what happened during the Second Lebanon War)? Has the Israeli home front grown too comfortable with, and reliant upon, Iron Dome? Is it capable of withstanding an onslaught of 100,000 rockets courtesy of Hezbollah? Does Israel even have the international legitimacy necessary to embark on a large-scale war in Syria [or Iran]?

These questions will dictate Gantz’s conduct as chief of staff as well as his dealings with the civilian leadership. Very soon, he will have to delve deep into this jungle, not only because there is a good chance that he will have a new defense minister to whom he must answer and with whom he will have to form a working relationship, but also because he will have to get an almost entirely new cabinet up to speed. There will be new faces in the government, and they will belong to those who will be called upon to approve massive IDF operations.

If there is one element that the IDF needs to take into account following these elections—with the exception of the fact that soldiers voted overwhelmingly in favor of either Yair Lapid or Naftali Bennett—it is that the public did not bother to wrack itself with existential security issues. Instead, it preferred to focus on day-to-day, domestic matters. On the surface, this may seem like good news, testament to the fact that Israel has finally become a normal country with (relatively) peaceful borders and an agenda that is devoted primarily to local issues.

From the IDF’s standpoint, however, given the geopolitical situation in the Middle East, there is big trouble looming. One need only observe the powder keg that threatens to explode in Egypt, the terrorism that is moving closer to the fence separating Israel and Syria on the Golan Heights, the accelerated pace of arms shipments in Lebanon, and the progress that is being made in the Iranian nuclear program. We haven’t even broached the issue of the future of the Jordanian monarchy and the stability of the Palestinian Authority in the West Bank. This is enough to understand that drastic cuts in the security budget, which is a topic that will surely come up for discussion as coalition talks progress, are inherently disastrous from the point of view of the military chief.

It is reasonable to assume that Gantz will insist on receiving his portion of the pie. He will do whatever he is told, so long as the process is proper and transparent. He will offer his analysis of the ramifications of the cuts, but if they decide that Gantz has to cut, he will cut. The IDF has been working without a cogent, multi-year financial plan for over a year. This denies the army an opportunity to clearly spell out which direction it wishes to go, which projects it wants to invest in, and which priorities to promote. From the army’s perspective, it is damaging, though it does leave Gantz with some flexibility ahead of the anticipated cuts. As such, Gantz would be wise to preempt budget cuts by presenting his own multi-year plan that will take into account the expected austerity measures in state funding but at the same time allow the army to make specific plans. Such an initiative would be a practical one, and it would spare Gantz and the IDF of the need to publicly castigate treasury officials who will surely want to “pull off a populist ploy at the expense of the IDF.”

On a personal leve, if Gantz were asked which chief of staff he wished to emulate, the most likely response would be Amnon Lipkin-Shahak. The two men were not particularly close (Gantz was a protégé of Shaul Mofaz), but in the last two years Gantz saw in Shahak what many before him had seen—a low-key advisor, discrete and shrewd, courageous yet not prone to adventurism, undeterred by war yet always seeking peace.

Shahak personally bequeathed this legacy to Gantz. Three days before his passing, Shahak received the latter in his hospital room at Hadassah Hospital in Jerusalem. Gantz wrote about this encounter in a newspaper column which appeared on the morning of Shahak’s funeral. It was a very moving piece in which he recalled ending his visit by saying, “Have a successful journey.”

What wasn’t mentioned about this meeting, which took place just between the two of them (Shahak’s wife, Tali, left the room and allowed the two men to talk privately for close to 90 minutes), is that Shahak told Gantz, “Don’t give up for a moment. Don’t give in. Be the voice of sanity, and always stand up for what you think is right. Do so with pride, and do it during the most harrowing moments.”

The message was clear: Don’t allow yourself to be enticed into military adventurism and don’t give up hope for peace. The implication for the former was Iran and the latter piece of advice, the Palestinians.

On fateful issues, including the Iranian matter, Gantz hires staffers that will challenge his decisions and positions. Still, the challenges he faced in the past pale in comparison to those that await him in the future. Political instability, coupled with regional instability, will require the chief of staff to shoulder a greater share of the burden and to act even more responsibly than the job initially demands.

Relations with the Americans have been unsteady on the diplomatic level for the past few years. On the security level, however, the harmony has been quite impressive. This is the result of the close, personal ties that Barak and Ashkenazi cultivated with their American counterparts, and which Gantz, a former military attache in Washington, D.C., has maintained. Under a new administration in Washington, which includes a defense secretary that is less enamored with Israel, the chief of staff will have to ensure on an almost daily basis that the vital strategic ties between the U.S. and the Jewish state—ranging from exchanges of intelligence and science to trade to joint projects with fateful ramifications—are not harmed.

As the gatekeeper, Gantz may find himself entangled in rows with the civilian leadership, though this may involve other matters as well. The issue of universal conscription and the drafting of ultra-Orthodox youths, an issue which was at the heart of the recent election campaign, could drag him into a political vortex. In this case, Gantz would be wise to offer a clearly defined, uncompromising position where he finds himself initiating rather than being led.

This could be a seminal event both on the national level as well as on the personal level for Gantz as chief of staff. More than any war or operation which may or may not unfold, more than any secret mission for which he can never claim credit, this is an issue in which Gantz could make “his own” change that seals his place in the history books.




Putting to Work Financial Survival Strategies

Editor’s Note: The following article is excerpted from Chapter Seven of Pat Morley’s 2010 book, How to Survive the Economic Meltdown.

There is no pain quite like cash flow pain, is there?

Depending on how severely the economic meltdown has affected you personally, here are some financial strategies to help you survive.

Strategy: Get Out of Debt

Here’s an idea that often gets overlooked: It takes more energy to earn a living and service debt than to just earn a living.

Debt is dumb. If you are in debt, getting out of debt is “do or die.”

The strategy for debt during my economic meltdown was simple. First, I made “getting out of debt” my overarching business goal. For seven years that was my #1 business priority. I knew that to survive, I had to get out of debt. So do you.

Second, I told everyone with whom I did business, “I am pledging all of my business assets to all of my business debts.”

Third, I told everyone, “I promise that I will treat everyone exactly the same.” I agreed to give no one preferential treatment as we divvied up my business assets. Again, a great confidence builder. Of course, you have to deliver on the promise!

So, to summarize, my debt strategy was:

  • To make getting out of debt my overarching business goal
  • To pledge all of my business assets to all of my business debts
  • To promise that I would treat all my creditors equally.

These three strategies stabilized my situation—step one. These same strategies, or some derivative, can probably stabilize your situation too. Now let’s look at strategies that can correct the problem.

Strategy: Accessibility

I quickly discovered that the people who do “work outs” think very differently than the people who made the loans!

Basically, they believe no one, trust no one, and assume you are always lying all the time. Why? Because with most customers it’s true! Their customers tend to dodge calls, not return calls, not do what they promise, and miss deadlines.

This creates a fantastic opportunity for you to distinguish yourself and get some mercy.

Here are some strategies to try—for both debt and overdue payments. First, for your initial contact, proactively meet with your creditors to explain your circumstances and propose a plan—always in person if possible. A phone call is a distant second for the first contact, and mail is a non-starter. As a wise man once said, “Go. If you can’t go, call. If you can’t call, write.”

Second, if someone you owe money tries to make contact, you must always take their call or return their call as soon as possible—let’s call this the strategy of “accessibility.”

And, third, if a creditor sends you email or snail mail, pick up the phone and give them a call. They will be blown away! It’s all about keeping or restoring trust.

Fourth, don’t wait for your creditors to call you. Call them periodically and give them an update if you feel up to it. Or you may want to send them a written monthly update (always include your contact information so they can easily get hold of you if they need a clarification).

The accessibility strategies are:

  • To proactively meet with creditors in person
  • To always take your creditors’ calls
  • To respond to mail by picking up the phone
  • To update your creditors regularly

I didn’t say it’s easy. I hated it. My ego was already bruised, and it was embarrassing. Yet, it’s a key strategy to make it through. Why? Because so few others will do it.

Motivate yourself with the axiom I mentioned earlier: Sometimes you have to substitute discipline for a lack of natural interest.

 

Strategy: Live Within Your Means

People either live “above” their means, “at” their means, “within” their means, or “below” their means.

If you’ve been living “above” or “at” your means, then this is your opportunity to get loose from the snare of materialism and worldliness.

In times like these, the wise cut back. How? The first step is to get out of denial that you are not living within your means. Frankly, denial is a much stronger force than most people understand. There are appearances to keep up. Denial means that you actually believe a story that you’ve made up—a lie.

The second step is to repent. The Apostle Paul wrote, and I feel the same way:

“Even if I caused you sorrow by my letter, I do not regret it. Though I did regret it—I see that my letter hurt you, but only for a little while—yet now I am happy, not because you were made sorry, but because your sorrow led you to repentance. For you became sorrowful as God intended and so were not harmed in any way by us. Godly sorrow brings repentance that leads to salvation and leaves no regret, but worldly sorrow brings death.” (2 Corinthians 7:8-10)

The third step is to grieve what could have been. You will no doubt be filled with shame, guilt, regret, anger, and many other emotions. Let them out—preferably with an understanding spouse or same gender friend.

Fourth, don’t be a victim. Be a victor. God is big enough to work it out. This is a matter of faith and attitude.

Finally, make a budget that you can afford. If you have to move in with your parents for a season, so be it. Pay off your debts—start with the ones that carry the highest interest rates. If you can’t figure this out on your own, see a financial counselor.

Oh, and one more thing. If it’s possible, you may want to consider living “below” your means. Why would you want to do that? First, for your children—so they don’t grow up materialistic and suffer financial dysfunction. Second, for God’s kingdom—because you don’t want to be distracted by life’s worries, riches, and pleasures (Luke 8:14). And you don’t want to be engrossed by the things of this world (1 Corinthians 7:30-31). And you recognize that the world and its desire pass away, but the one who does the will of God lives forever (1 John 2:17).

The steps to live within your means are:

  • Get out of denial that you’re overspending
  • Repent for being materialistic and worldly
  • Grieve what could have been
  • Don’t be a victim
  • Prayerfully consider living “below” your means.

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Pat Morley is the Founder and CEO of Man in the Mirror. After building one of Florida’s 100 largest privately held companies, in 1991, he founded Man in the Mirror, a non-profit organization to help men find meaning and purpose in life. Dr. Morley is the bestselling author of The Man in the Mirror, No Man Left Behind, Dad in the Mirror, and A Man’s Guide to the Spiritual Disciplines.




10 ‘Jewish Facts’ About the New Testament

As a new believer in Yeshua (Jesus), I assumed I was no longer Jewish—that believing in this Jewish man had nothing in common with Jewishness. However after reading the New Testament, I was shocked to find out that it was a Jewish book, telling a Jewish story in Israel about Jewish people. Check out these 10 facts:

1. Jesus’ actual name is Yeshua. Yeshua comes from the Hebrew noun Yeshu-á, which means salvation. When Joseph was visited by the Angel, he was told that he must give the child the name Yeshua, because He would be Yeshu-á for His people! (Matt. 1:21) You miss this powerful prophetic wordplay in Greek and English.

2. His mother’s name was not Mary or even Maria. She was not Catholic! Miriam is the same name as the sister of Moses. It is a Jewish name, and that was her name. She was an Israelite who lived long before the Vatican even existed.

3. John was not a Baptist. No disrespect to my Baptist friends, but John was the last and greatest of the Hebrew prophets like Jeremiah, Isaiah and Ezekiel. He prophesied the coming of the Jewish Messiah. He too was an Israelite calling the Jewish people to get ready for the appearance of the Lamb of God.

4. Baptism is not unique to the New Testament. Jews, believe it or not, used water immersion for centuries before John began to baptize his Jewish followers. One of the reasons they did not resist was because it was familiar to their culture. Next to the Temple, archaeologists have discovered nearly 50 immersion tanks (Mikvot) that were for those coming to be ritually cleansed before making their sacrifice at the Temple.

5. Peter was not the first Pope! Peter, a Jew, was only the leader of the first Jewish believers for a few years. He turned over the reigns to Jacob (we will talk about him in a minute) the brother of Yeshua and began to travel, sharing the message of Salvation through Yeshua. There is zero evidence that Peter was the Bishop of Rome or that he passed down such a mantle to anyone else.  He was a Jewish fisherman who became one of the greatest communicators of Yeshua’s message of Salvation. He never stopped living as a Jew, and certainly never referred to himself as Catholic. Oh, and the Bible states very clearly that Peter had a mother-n-law, which would lead me to believe he had a wife, and for some strange reason, Catholic priests (including the Pope) are forbidden to wed.

6. James is not the name of the fellow who wrote the Book of James or who led the first Jewish believers in Acts 15. James would be a great name for a butler, or chauffeur or even a king…but not a Jew in the first century. His name was Jacob! The Latin for James and Jacob are very close and because of a linguistic confusion, James became the English for Ya’akov (Jacob) in the New Covenant.

7. Yeshua died on Passover, rose from the dead on the Jewish Feast of Firstfruits and the Holy Spirit was poured out on Jerusalem on the Feast of Weeks (Shavuot). These are three of the most significant days in history, and God caused each one of them to happen on the three most significant days to Jews during the spring of 30CE. It is as if God was saying, “Hey, don’t forget that this started with the Jews in Jerusalem!” And still, the Church sadly forgot.

8. Paul never changed his name. The Bible merely mentions the fact that Saul was also called Paul. (Acts 13:9) Like most Jews, he had a name that was common to the people where he lived (Roman Empire) and a Hebrew name. The idea that he got rid of his Jewish name is unbiblical and frankly ignorant. I too was given an English name when I born, Ron, and a Hebrew one, Chaim.

9. The entire New Testament was written by Jews. There is some controversy whether or not Luke was Jewish (I have heard strong arguments for both views), but every other writer was Jewish.

10. Communion was instituted at a Passover Seder. Yeshua picked up the Afikomen, a special piece of matzah (unleavened bread) used during the Passover Seder and he lifted the third cup of four that are blessed during the Passover meal, the Cup of Redemption, and asked that his Jewish disciples continue this Jewish tradition.

10. BONUS: All of the original followers of Yeshua were Jewish. And once Gentiles began to believe in Him, there were many that felt that in order for non-Jews to believe in the Jewish Messiah, they had to covert to Judaism first. In the end (Acts 15), it was decided that they didn’t need to. But never did it is enter the mind of the Jewish followers of Yeshua that they were no longer Jewish!

Note from the Author: In just over a few days, this has become the most shared blog I have ever written. Along with that, have come a few misunderstandings, so let me be clear: Jews and Gentiles are one in the Messiah! My goal in pointing out the Jewish roots is not to celebrate Jewish superiority–God forbid–but to equip my Gentile brothers and sisters to share the Gospel with Jewish people in its truthful Jewish context. Jewish people have suffered persecution at its highest level from people claiming to be Christians. Couple that with the fact that they have been told by many church fathers that they are cursed and cut off from God because of the death of Yeshua. Forced baptisms, expulsions and even murder in His name have been carried out against His people. All this has served to solidify in the Jewish mind that there is nothing Jewish about believing in Yeshua. My goal in exploring the Jewish roots of the faith, is not to look down on others, but to help Jewish people see that faith in Yeshua is “from the Jews.” (Jn. 4:22) God has given the Gentiles grace to reach Israel, as Shaul said, “Again I ask: Did [Israel] stumble so as to fall beyond recovery? Not at all! Rather, because of their transgression, salvation has come to the Gentiles to make Israel envious.”

Ron Cantor is the director of Messiah’s Mandate International in Israel, a Messianic Ministry dedicated to taking the message of Jesus from Israel to the ends of the earth (Acts 1:8). Ron also travels internationally teaching on the Jewish Roots of the New Testament. He serves on the pastoral team of Tiferet Yeshua, a Hebrew-speaking congregation in Tel Aviv. His newest book, Identity Theft, will be released on April 16th. Follow him at @RonSCantor on Twitter.




No Divorce? Then Pay Up

A man imprisoned over his refusal to give his wife a divorce will remain in prison despite his wife’s decision to seek damages from a family court, the Israeli High Court of Justice said on Thursday.

The ruling effectively overturns the Supreme Rabbinical Court’s decision that allowed the man to be released from jail until the family matters court rules against the wife in the damages claim.

The High Court of Justice will make a final decision on the matter after it convenes to discuss the rabbinical court’s decision.

The man refused to grant his wife a get, a divorce given by a man under Jewish law, for over a decade. Three months ago, a three-judge panel of the Supreme Rabbinical Court, chaired by Chief Sephardi Rabbi Shlomo Amar, ruled that the husband’s refusal was unreasonable and violated a lower court order, ordering him imprisoned until he agreed to release the woman from their marriage.

Two months later, however, the same rabbinical panel said that unless the family court ruled against the wife, the man would be released indefinitely.

Mavoi Satum, an NGO that helps women whose husbands refuse to grant a get, asked the High Court of Justice to strike down the condition set by the rabbinical court for the husband’s arrest. The national government justice system, topped by the High Court, is run separately from the rabbinical court system, which has its own hierarchy and rules only on religious matters.

Under Israeli law, rabbinical courts oversee marriage and divorce between Jews. Usually the High Court of Justice does not interfere with the rabbinical courts’ decisions.

Representatives of Mavoi Satum noted that since the wife had already withdrawn the damages claim to the rabbinical court, she would be forced to refile her claim and ask the court to rule against her in order to have the man imprisoned.

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Evidence Grows for Narcolepsy Link to Swine Flu Shot

Emelie Olsson is plagued by hallucinations and nightmares. When she wakes up, she’s often paralyzed, unable to breathe properly or call for help. During the day she can barely stay awake, and often misses school or having fun with friends. She is only 14, but at times she has wondered if her life is worth living.

Emelie is one of around 800 children in Sweden and elsewhere in Europe who developed narcolepsy, an incurable sleep disorder, after being immunized with the Pandemrix H1N1 swine flu vaccine made by British drugmaker GlaxoSmithKline in 2009.

Finland, Norway, Ireland and France have seen spikes in narcolepsy cases, too, and people familiar with the results of a soon-to-be-published study in Britain have told Reuters it will show a similar pattern in children there.

Their fate, coping with an illness that all but destroys normal life, is developing into what the health official who coordinated Sweden’s vaccination campaign calls a “medical tragedy” that will demand rising scientific and medical attention.

Europe’s drugs regulator has ruled Pandemrix should no longer be used in people aged under 20. The chief medical officer at GSK’s vaccines division, Norman Begg, says his firm views the issue extremely seriously and is “absolutely committed to getting to the bottom of this”, but adds there is not yet enough data or evidence to suggest a causal link.

Others—including Emmanuel Mignot, one of the world’s leading experts on narcolepsy, who is being funded by GSK to investigate further—agree more research is needed but say the evidence is already clearly pointing in one direction.

“There’s no doubt in my mind whatsoever that Pandemrix increased the occurrence of narcolepsy onset in children in some countries—and probably in most countries,” says Mignot, a specialist in the sleep disorder at Stanford University in the United States.

30 Million Immunized

In total, the GSK shot was given to more than 30 million people in 47 countries during the 2009-2010 H1N1 swine flu pandemic. Because it contains an adjuvant, or booster, it was not used in the United States because drug regulators there are wary of adjuvanted vaccines.

GSK says 795 people across Europe have reported developing narcolepsy since the vaccine’s use began in 2009.

Questions about how the narcolepsy cases are linked to Pandemrix, what the triggers and biological mechanisms might have been, and whether there might be a genetic susceptibility are currently the subject of deep scientific investigation.

But experts on all sides are wary. Rare adverse reactions can swiftly develop into “vaccine scares” that spiral out of proportion and cast what one of Europe’s top flu experts calls a “long shadow” over public confidence in vaccines that control potential killers like measles and polio.

“No one wants to be the next Wakefield,” said Mignot, referring to the now discredited British doctor Andrew Wakefield who sparked a decades-long backlash against the measles, mumps and rubella (MMR) shot with false claims of links to autism.

With the narcolepsy studies, there is no suggestion that the findings are the work of one rogue doctor.

Independent teams of scientists have published peer-reviewed studies from Sweden, Finland and Ireland showing the risk of developing narcolepsy after the 2009-2010 immunization campaign was between seven and 13 times higher for children who had Pandemrix than for their unvaccinated peers.

“We really do want to get to the bottom of this. It’s not in anyone’s interests if there is a safety issue that needs to be addressed,” said GSK’s Begg.

Life Changed

Emelie’s parents, Charles and Marie Olsson, say she was a top student who loved playing the piano, taking tennis lessons, creating art and having fun with friends. But her life started to change in early 2010, a few months after she had Pandemrix. In the spring of 2010, they noticed she was often tired, needing to sleep when she came home from school.

But it wasn’t until May, when she began collapsing at school, that it became clear something serious was happening.

As well as the life-limiting bouts of daytime sleepiness, narcolepsy brings nightmares, hallucinations, sleep paralysis and episodes of cataplexy—when strong emotions trigger a sudden and dramatic loss of muscle strength.

In Emelie’s case, having fun is the emotional trigger. “I can’t laugh or joke about with my friends any more, because when I do I get cataplexies and collapse,” she said in an interview at her home in the Swedish capital.

Narcolepsy is estimated to affect between 200 and 500 people per million and is a lifelong condition. It has no known cure and scientists don’t really know what causes it. But they do know patients have a deficit of a brain neurotransmitter called orexin, also known as hypocretin, which regulates wakefulness.

Research has found that some people are born with a variant in a gene known as HLA that means they have low hypocretin, making them more susceptible to narcolepsy. Around 25 percent of Europeans are thought to have this genetic vulnerability.

When results of Emelie’s hypocretin test came back in November last year, it showed she had 15 percent of the normal amount, typical of heavy narcolepsy with cataplexy.

The seriousness of her strange new illness has forced her to contemplate life far more than many other young teens: “In the beginning I didn’t really want to live any more, but now I have learned to handle things better,” she said.

Possible Triggers?

Scientists investigating these cases are looking in detail at Pandemrix’s adjuvant, called AS03, for clues.

Some suggest AS03, or maybe its boosting effect, or even the H1N1 flu itself, may have triggered the onset of narcolepsy in those who have the susceptible HLA gene variant.

Angus Nicoll, a flu expert at the European Centre for Disease Prevention and Control (ECDC), says genes may well play a part, but don’t tell the whole story.

“Yes, there’s a genetic predisposition to this condition, but that alone cannot explain these cases,” he said. “There was also something to do with receiving this specific vaccination. Whether it was the vaccine plus the genetic disposition alone or a third factor as well—like another infection—we simply do not know yet.”

GSK is funding a study in Canada, where its adjuvanted vaccine Arepanrix, similar to Pandemrix, was used during the 2009-2010 pandemic. The study won’t be completed until 2014, and some experts fear it may not shed much light since the vaccines were similar but not precisely the same.

It all leaves this investigation with far more questions than answers, and a lot more research ahead.

Was It Worth It?

In his glass-topped office building overlooking the Maria Magdalena church in Stockholm, Goran Stiernstedt, a doctor turned public health official, has spent many difficult hours going over what happened in his country during the swine flu pandemic, wondering if things should have been different.

“The big question is was it worth it? And retrospectively I have to say it was not,” he told Reuters in an interview.

Being a wealthy country, Sweden was at the front of the queue for pandemic vaccines. It got Pandemrix from GSK almost as soon as it was available, and a nationwide campaign got uptake of the vaccine to 59 percent, meaning around 5 million people got the shot.

Stiernstedt, director for health and social care at the Swedish Association of Local Authorities and Regions, helped coordinate the vaccination campaign across Sweden’s 21 regions.

The World Health Organisation (WHO) says the 2009-2010 pandemic killed 18,500 people, although a study last year said that total might be up to 15 times higher.

While estimates vary, Stiernstedt says Sweden’s mass vaccination saved between 30 and 60 people from swine flu death. Yet since the pandemic ended, more than 200 cases of narcolepsy have been reported in Sweden.

With hindsight, this risk-benefit balance is unacceptable. “This is a medical tragedy,” he said. “Hundreds of young people have had their lives almost destroyed.”

Pandemics Are Emergencies

Yet the problem with risk-benefit analyses is that they often look radically different when the world is facing a pandemic with the potential to wipe out millions than they do when it has emerged relatively unscathed from one, like H1N1, which turned out to be much milder than first feared.

David Salisbury, the British government’s director of immunization, says “therein lies the risk, and the difficulty, of working in public health” when a viral emergency hits.

“In the event of a severe pandemic, the risk of death is far higher than the risk of narcolepsy,” he told Reuters. “If we spent longer developing and testing the vaccine on very large numbers of people and waited to see whether any of them developed narcolepsy, much of the population might be dead.”

Pandemrix was authorized by European drug regulators using a so-called “mock-up procedure” that allows a vaccine to be authorized ahead of a possible pandemic using another flu strain. In Pandemrix’s case, the substitute was H5N1 bird flu.

When the WHO declared a pandemic, GSK replaced the mock-up’s strain with the pandemic-causing H1N1 strain to form Pandemrix.

GSK says the final H1N1 version was tested in trials involving around 3,600 patients, including children, adolescents, adults and the elderly, before it was rolled out.

The ECDC’s Nicoll says early warning systems that give a more accurate analysis of a flu strain’s threat are the best way to minimize risks of this kind of tragedy happening in future.

Salisbury agrees, and says progress towards a universal flu vaccine—one that wouldn’t need last-minute changes made when a new strain emerged—would cuts risks further.

“Ideally, we would have a better vaccine that would work against all strains of influenza and we wouldn’t need to worry about this ever again,” he said. “But that’s a long way off.”

With scientists facing years of investigation and research, Emelie just wants to make the best of her life.

She reluctantly accepts that to do so, she needs a cocktail of drugs to try to control the narcolepsy symptoms. The stimulant Ritalin and the sleeping pill Sobril are prescribed for Emelie’s daytime sleepiness and night terrors. Then there’s Prozac to try to stabilize her and limit her cataplexies.

“That’s one of the things that makes me feel most uncomfortable,” she explains. “Before I got this condition I didn’t take any pills, and now I have to take lots—maybe for the rest of my life. It’s not good to take so many medicines, especially when you know they have side effects.”




5 Ways to Make the Second Half of Your Life Count

Many mountaineers have lost their lives on the Swiss Matterhorn and are buried nearby in a Catholic church cemetery outside the small town of Zermatt.

A recent study by a historian found two-thirds of the climbers in this graveyard made it to the Matterhorn peak, but died on the way back down. They started strong but could not finish, mainly because they were not adequately prepared.

All of us are susceptible to this danger; if not on a mountain, then in life. It’s easy to go full out in the beginning, but it’s much harder to finish well.  That takes diligent planning and preparation. 

Granted, it’s pretty much impossible to know for certain if you’re in the second half of your life. The definitive information isn’t available until you really don’t need it anymore. However, there is something undeniably pivotal about arriving at your 40s and 50s, and hearing, “It’s all downhill from here” (or something like that).

Regardless of exactly when “The second half of your life” begins, there’s absolutely no reason for any All Pro Dad to fail to live with enthusiasm, resolve, and passion. Here are 5 ways to make the second half of your life count.

1. Fine-tune your purpose. Younger men invest so much energy in “getting ahead” and establishing a family that they sometimes forget to consider the “so what?” That “so what” is going to help you to shine despite the empty nest, retirement, and loss of professional focus.

2. Carpe Diem. Take some classes. Teach a class. Volunteer. Get involved in your grandchildren’s lives. Put the wisdom of your experience to good use. In other words, grab the opportunity and seize the day. Don’t wait for meaning to come to you when there is so much need that can benefit from the gifts you already have.

3. Arrive there in sound fiscal shape. Prepare now for the second half of your life by making financial decisions that will free up your resources to serve your family and be generous to the world.

4. Love your family like never before. By now, you’ve learned a lot about your own gifts and the particular needs of the people you love. Don’t waste this opportunity. Put that knowledge into practice and love your family with all the wisdom and skill that you now have.

5. Avoid slipping into maintenance mode over performance mode. Don’t fall into the trap of letting your guard down because, “All the hard work has already been done.” No, fight for your wife’s love like never before. Get to know your kids all over again. Hone your existing skills and learn new ones. Continue to push the envelope. Get after God like you never have before. Finish in a sprint.

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Kenny Luck: Reject Broken Male Culture

Editor’s Note: This is the third in a series called “Uprising,” where God’s men seek to reject the material world and embrace God’s world. What does the future hold for us? What does the Bible say about the future of God’s men? This article — and the others that preceded it — take us on a journey into the broken male culture, where the men of God need to seek revival in God’s words, God’s laws and God’s desires for us to submit to His will. This series will help you understand, through the lens of Scripture, what God expects from his sons. Part 1 Part 2

We are witnessing a variety of global uprisings, but there is something more: a spiritual uprising is uniting men around the world. Men everywhere are rejecting the broken male culture: seeking new hearts, seeking truth, seeking righteousness, seeking God.

Amen!

God’s men want to be transformed. They are seeking the power of the Holy Spirit, through Jesus Christ. Our spiritual Dad loves us. He cares for us. He’s waiting for us. Now is the time to embrace Him, to love Him and to do His will!

But we need to be strong enough to go all the way to the cross with our Father. I’m not just talking about everybody in general. I’m talking specifically about you. This is our time: YOUR time, guys.

This is our time to transcend the cultural identity and say no to the broken patterns around us. This is our time to stand against injustice and gain personal inner security that allows us not just to be strong, but to aggressively love people. That was Jesus. He went against the broken male culture and was crucified for it.

Are you ready to do that? It sparked a revolution then. It is sparking revolution now in countries around the world.

Before Jesus left this planetthe universe He createdthe architect of the world portended many uprisings. He spoke to his men and directly to us in Acts 1:8 (NLT) with the following words:

“But you will receive power when the Holy Spirit comes upon you. And you will be my witness, telling people about me everywhere—in Jerusalem, throughout Judea, in Samaria, and to the ends of the earth.”

Jesus portended an uprising. He telegraphed what’s coming. When he was talking to his disciples, he said: “power is going to come, it’s going to fill and form you, and there is going to be an explosion so gigantic it’s going to look like concentric circles from Judea, Jerusalem, to Samaria, to the whole world. If you are a Christian right now, listening to my voice, then you’re a part of that initial explosion.

Let’s look at Acts 2:21 which says, “Everyone who calls on the name of the Lord will be saved.” Peter says this is what God is talking about. It’s happening right now.

An uprising has launched. These men go from being individuals to being one. You see new courage, instead of hiding from their culture. They are now out in the open. You see a new explosion of testimony and talking and witnessing versus clamming up and not talking about Jesus.

Then you see the target audience, in verse 22: “Men of Israel, listen!”

How was this uprising going to happen? Who was the group he had to target? Who would create the most phenomenal witness?  It wasn’t the women of Israel, as valuable as they were. It was the men of Israel. Men have their own role in God’s culture.

We’ve seen the results of the absence of men, but that tide is turning. God is filling and informing men with His Spirit through belief in Jesus Christ who began then and continues now to turn broken male culture right on its head.

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Kenny Luck is the men’s pastor at Saddleback Church and is the founder of Every Man Ministries. His 20th book–Sleeping Giant: No Movement of God without Men of God— is a blueprint for men’s ministries, and was recently released through Broadman & Holman Books. Follow Every Man Ministries on Facebook and Twitter.